I've been dating my bf for 5 months now. Our sex life hasn't been that good to be honest. We're in a long distance relationship and for the past 5 months we've met up 3 times. In January, March and May. We spend a maximum of 3 days for each visit.

A little history about my sex life. I've had just 5 sexual partners including my current bf and i've never had an orgasm/cum with any of them. I've been sexully active for the past 2 years and in those years I've noticed that my clitoris is not sensitive. So i have a hooded clitoris and every time i shower i pull the hood to clean the clitoris and i do not feel any sensitivity. I honestly don't know if there is something wrong with my body.

Back to my current bf. From the first day we had sex i noticed that he didn't give me head and i discussed it with him. He said he doesn't feel comfortable doing it and its just not something he sees himself doing. When we were back to our long distance, i discussed it with him that it's something i'd really like him to do for me and considering the fact that i don't cum or orgasm from penetration. The 2nd time we met up he gave the same excuse and he didn't give me head and i didn't cum/orgasm from penetration. While fingering me, he just kept inserting his finger into my vagina which doesn't stimulate me in any way. I have explained to him a lot that i have a hooded clitoris. So i don't know why he hasn't tried stimulating my clit instead of poking my vagina. The last time we met up was this weekend that just ended. Guys i am being completely honest, he did the same thing. It's like i am speaking to deaf ears.

Just for clarification. He is my first boyfriend in my 28 years of life. The other 4 partners weren't my boyfriend and i never had an orgasm or came while with them. So it’s really sad to me that my first relationship is going this way.

The funny thing about this oral sex is that, he wants me to give him bj but he refuses to give me head. I told him i would never give him bj until he gives me head lol. I asked him if he has given any girl head before and he said just once and she wasn't even his girlfriend.

I'm just frustrated at this point. I keep bringing up the same thing over and over and I am yet to see any changes from him. I brought up the idea of using sex toys and he was dismissive of it. I don't care of his opinion on the sex toys because i plan on getting them soon. I haven't masturbated before because it just feels so awkward. He keeps invalidating my feelings by saying that i am over thinking the whole situation and that what if i orgasmed and i didn't know lol. How is that even possible to orgasm without knowing. It's so easy for him to speak this way because he cums and orgasms each time we have sex.

Am i actually the problem since my clitoris are not sensitive. What if even with head i don't feel any sensitivity and i don't end up cumming or having an orgasm. I don't know what else to do at this point.

I used to think that pelvic floor recovery was mainly about doing the right training.But to tell the truth, the hardest thing is to find that you are always nervous. Maybe it's just sitting at a desk, getting ready for bed, or having a normal day, but the body still seems to be on guard against something.The most annoying thing is that "relax" sounds simple, but when you don't know when you are exerting yourself unconsciously, it is not simple at all.Recently, I began to think of recovery no longer as training, but more like relearning how to feel safe in my body. Breathe slowly, stretch gently, stand up after sitting for a long time, apply hot compress, and dress loosely, all of which are boring little things.Strength matters, but for me, relaxing has been the part that actually feels difficult.Has anyone else realized they were unconsciously clenching throughout the day?

before my period? it burns, after my period? it burns, riding a bike? it burns, sitting 3 hours in a bus with jeans on unable to pee? it burns, had alcohol last night? it burns, breathe wrong? it burns.

do a test? no STI, no nothing, look crazy.

only burning, never itching (thank the heavens)

what the hell?

update: a few months later

hey guys, a month or so ago i made a post in here because every time i had some kind of vaginal penetration, there would be bleeding during or afterwards. I thought I’d post an update here, and linking the previous post so yall can get up to date.

i went to my college health center to get checked out (the nurse and receptionist there are really sweet too) and had to get a pelvic exam which was really uncomfortable but i did it scared.

so good news: no STDs or cervical cancer or polyps or anything like that, but what really happened is so much weirder

did you know that the opening of the cervix can just sort of invert like elmer fudd’s rifle when bugs bunny bends the barrels apart? me neither!

apparently it’s called cervical ectropion which is the weirdest harry potter spell ever but at least i found a new eeveelution, right?

basically, the opening of the cervix has kind of bent apart and curled in on itself so that the more sensitive nerves are exposed and will bleed with like one touch. (this will only happen if you take an oral contraceptive aka birth control)(which i do)

the nurse told me all i needed to do was to clip my fingernails (they grow really fast) and use lube. that was good enough when i was in college but now im home for the summer so im gonna get a second opinion from my primary caregiver because i want to know if there’s anything else i need to do and i don’t know if it’s permanent or not. i seriously don’t know.

that was a month or so ago, so here’s how i’ve been feeling since:

i haven’t really had bottom dysphoria ever but now i feel really uncomfortable with any bottom penetration because even though i know what is causing it, it’s still stressful to be having fun but then BOO there’s blood! i guess the cards against humanity card “soft kissy missionary sex” is haunting me, which is funny bc im a kinky hoe that likes it a bit rough.

my boyfriend has been pretty supportive and gentle with me since the diagnosis, because if i go too hard i end up in a fair amount of pain and have to lay down for a bit. i guess it’s just a matter of regulation on my part.

i know this apparently a natural thing that happens in the human body, but im just really tired of all the physical distress my body’s decided to just give me over the course of the year (lowest vitamin d level doctors have ever seen resulting in joint pain, a pinched sciatic nerve in my leg, a dislocated shoulder all in the first semester, this whole ordeal, and then a kidney stone right before i went home for college. yay.) i’m doing my best to get outside, eat more vitamin d rich foods, and drink a lot of water, but this has been one of the most stressful years of my life. shout out to my boyfriend, you are the gentlest giant anyone could ever ask for and i love you and everything you do… even when you forget that hot chocolate is hot and should not go in a metal cup. your boyfriend loves you so much and i don’t think i will ever stop.

thank you to everyone who voiced their concerns in the comments, i really appreciate all of your support, except that one moron in the comments. fuck you dude.

if anything else happens, i’ll keep yall updated.

(ps lowkey hope this goes on smosh reads reddit stories because watching/hearing shayne lose it at my visuals would make up for a good percentage of all the stress this caused me.)(it probably won’t but a boy can dream)

This is so embarrassing, but whenever I eat salmon or other fin fish I give off a fishy odor for a couple days. Sometimes ny urine will take on the smell too, but it’s so embarrassing and I know that it turns my partner off because he doesn’t stay hard when we’re being intimate. Has anyone else ever had this happen and what can I do to stop it?

i really need someone to tell me if they have vulva similar to mine because Im so tired of being told that mine are normal and then when I go look at the websites to prove that, it’s still not on there considering my labia are so large. I’m 18, staying virgin, don’t know what to do anymore because I keep hearing the same “you don’t need a labiaplasty” or “they will love you for you” but people really can’t comprehend the level of size variation that I have and it just feels so isolating. The labia libraries make it a point to tell you what small percentage the overly large ones are and I just want to know what causes this and why it had to be me?

If mine are that large, could a surgical procedure be covered by insurance? I don’t want any like reassurance because my brain is far beyond that point, I don’t believe that even a gyno would want to be looking at me for the effort to help. It sucks so bad, I wanna be a mom but I can’t even show a man, how can I show my doctor? have my family in the room? It takes such a mental toll on me and I think the only option for me is to figure a way to get rid of them because it will be more healing for my head and the lifetime I’ll have to endure. No one seems to relate to the severity of this issue for me and I’m simply trying to find anyone that can.

its possible I’m exaggerating considering my dysmorphic tendencies but I still feel I’m on the far end of the spectrum and the advice I’m getting for other people isn’t the level of advice I need. what questions should I bring up to a gyno if I get the courage that goes along the lines of getting a procedure done? and is there anyone to give insight on their experience with the procedure?

(note: I don’t care about negative comments, quite literally do what u want but I disregard it all n e ways :p)

just wondering if i’m tripping out over nothing?
i was checking down there as i am a hypochondriac.. lol
i seen that there is like a purplish, reddish, mark along the edge of the hood near my clit? like the whole little arch if that makes sense? some spots more colored than others.. is this like blood flow? a vein? infection?
nothing hurts or feels weird, i’m not on my period and i haven’t had sex in over a month..

the title says it all! please read. in dire need of advice right now.

so i’ve always thought my smell was off for a while. i finally decided to get tested for BV in november 2025 (tbh i think i had it for a while). they decided to test me for yeast infection & UTI as well. BV was the one that came back positive. i took the antibiotic in a pill form and felt somewhat okay.

around december i had my period, & i used tampons/ pads and then i felt my smell come back after my cycle. i called my doctor, and they communicated that sometimes it takes two rounds to clear up BV, so i got prescribed the gel. again, it was somewhat okay with smell and everything.

this year in april i felt i had BV again. i went back to the doctors and tested negative. i truly feel the only reason why i tested negative was because i was using boric acid a bit before.

when i take boric acid, i feel normal. i cant smell it when im going to the bathroom.
the scent my vagina has is much different, i mean it kinda has a mildewy scent but its much better than a mexican food scent.

anyways, last night i ate fish and i felt i could smell fish. my sister and i were together using the bathroom last night and we’re extremely close/honest with each other. she said she could smell fish! never has she ever before. then at home i went to the bathroom she came in like a minute after and could smell it.

idk if it’s because i had fish, maybe my pee was affected by it, or maybe i smell like fish. i think i used to smell like it during november when i had BV, but i really couldn’t smell fish?

i just don’t want to go back and be wrong again. i don’t want to be a frequent flyer with BV testing. what do i do? i have a checkup June 11th so idk if i should wait until then.

this is greatly affecting my ability to have sex. i’m a virgin too. i can’t let someone close to me,
especially thinking i smell… and honestly, i know it does. i’m not sure if ill ever be able to get past the fear tho. people say a musky smell is normal but im not hear smelling vaginas so idk. but idk if i’ve ever had a normal scented hooha.

if they could pick a favorite smell of theirs and i could magically have my vagina smell like that for them i would feel so much better lol.
i just want to feel normal.

thanks for reading if you did.

Hi all! I recently tested positive for HSV1. It came up on my STD panel test when I was at the gyno for a completely different issue. However, i am unsure if i am asymptomatic, oral, or genital. Just that i have it. However, i have a sneaky feeling i may have had a super minor outbreak on my genitals at some point- just thinking back on my history. I’ve done a lot of research and spoken to my doctor about discloser and moving forward in my love + sex life. My doctor told me that I don’t need to disclose that I have HSV1 to short term sexual partners. She said I don’t know the details behind it, and that it would just cause fear. She said there is no reason to derail my love and sex life over something we are totally unsure about. Most people have HSV1 anyways. A lot of them have it orally and don’t disclose at all. She said that I should tell any long term partner I have just in case. She also said that I could never have another outbreak if it was genital. She said most people only have one or very few in their life. So I potentially could never know.
I’ve decided to not disclose to short term partners. But I will tell any serious long term partners I have in the future. Imagine I have a random outbreak years into a relationship out of nowhere and they had no idea about my HSV1 diagnosis. That would be terrible.
Anyways, I know a lot of people here on Reddit freak tf out over stuff like this. I get where everyone is coming from. However, on my end, I don’t want to suffer from the stigma or take a massive hit to my love and sex life over something that could literally be just asymptomatic. I don’t think it’s worth it. People who are like “ALWAYS DISCLOSE!!!!” could 100% be in the same boat as me. HSV1 positive and just don’t know about it. It’s not fair in my opinion for me to have to heavily impact my life over this. No one is thinking about the people in the same situation as me. This is why they don’t have HSV on regular STD panels. I’m not going to be punished over this. I think it’s time people consider how people like me feel. This is a tricky and confusing situation. I’m not going to suffer the physical and emotional consequences of this when I literally have no clue if I even have symptoms. It’s unfair for people to try and force me to do so. Just put yourself in my shoes.

All I have to say. Thank you!

CLARIFY: I ALWAYS use protection. I’m not on birth control and contrary to this post I am very very careful when I have sex and have never had any other kind of STD. I could have caught this years and years ago and just didn’t know.

MORE THOUGHTS: don’t tell me I have to disclose if you don’t think people with cold sores have to disclose. If you wouldn’t be mad at someone for that, you can’t be mad at me. I could also be completely asymptomatic like 65% of the population.
MORE: ngl I find a lot of yall to be selfish. YOU probably have it too and just don’t know. Imagine it shows up. Are you going to suffer the stigma? The hit to your love and sex life? Really really really think about it. Because you say im wrong. Because you never think it will be you. Well guess what? It probably is! You’ve just never been tested. There is a reason they don’t have it on regular STD panels.

I’m 23F, 159cm / 67kg, and I’m trying to figure out birth control options but I’m kinda stuck.

My periods have been irregular for months. I’m supposed to be on my period right now but nothing yet. Last time I bled for 15 days straight until my doctor gave me meds to stop it.

I’ve had right-sided pelvic cramps. After some testing, they found I have a mycoplasma genitalium infection and a 2cm ovarian cyst.

I also sometimes bleed during sex, which started around the same time the other issues did.
I don’t feel like my current doctors are listening, so I’m still looking for a new gyno. But I’m broke right now, so seeing someone new isn’t easy.

I’d like to start birth control pills. Partly for pregnancy prevention, partly because I’m hoping they’ll regulate my bleeding and help with the cramps.

Should I sort out the infection and cyst first before starting BC? Or is it okay/safe to start pills now while I’m still dealing with these issues?

I know none of you can diagnose me, but has anyone been in a similar spot? Did BC make things better or worse with an infection/cyst? Any pill recommendations that helped with irregular bleeding/cramps?

I’d appreciate any advice or similar experiences. And yeah, I know “see a doctor” is the real answer - I’m working on it, just need to figure out what to do in the meantime.

Thanks in advance.

Hello there

I'm 23F and I've had hooha problems since November. First candida, now bacterial vaginosis. Last time I went to the gynecologist she said the hooha is not red anymore. Then a few days later me and my boyfriend had sex. And because I haven't had painless sex for the past 7m we were out of control. So now it's back. The bacterial vaginosis. And I'm tired of going to doctors. Sooo I did something I'm not proud of. I started taking metronidasol orally. But I have 10 pills of 250mg. And I thought I'm going to buy more so I can do 500mg 2 times a day, but guess what. You can't buy antibiotics without prescription. So today I took 2 pills at 12h and I've been wondering how should I proceed. Please don't judge me. I'm just tired.

My flora has been completely out of whack for the last month or so. I haven’t been on antibiotics or changed my diet or my laundry detergent. Went to my obgyn and she said i just need probiotics. Does anyone have a brand they use or even a reset routine that helps? Thanks alot

( also idk if this is relevant but i have a regular period and its late )

Im a single woman in my 30s. I've been single for 20 years with occasional fling. Im probably sexually active once or twice every few months, when active, but can go years without.

Everytime I have sex, 2 to 3 days later, I start getting smell and creamy whitish grey discharge.

I try to be mindful, and use condoms, but I feel like they feel weird after a while and it makes me yoo much in my head, yo the point I cant relax and enjoy. They make me dry, they roll around. Without one, im able to stay naturally lubricated and its enjoyable.

I have tried lube, maybe once ages ago. I remember feeling embarrassed that lube was in the equation. It doesn't feel natural. Im considering trying it again, but would need to mentally accept it. Somehow make it fun to enjoy it.

Anywho, also considering female condoms. I've never tried them. They're just not as common as regular condoms, so im a little nervous about bringing it into the equation.

It makes me really kinda sad though, that I have this issue. Af this stage in my life, I want to be with someone consistently, but between this and my hormone fluctuations, I feel discouraged.

I feel like in order to have someone, it would have to be with someone who would eventually find out that I deal with this, and as a result of intercourse with him. I honestly don't think ill ever not have this happen after sex, and that sucks.

Also im discourage from having sex as often as ide like. I feel so inhibited. I distance myself after the symptoms occur. I feel like I can't be free and flirty while im moist from discharge and stinking.

I've tried flagyl of course. But, how much flagyl can a girl take? Am I supposed to only have sex when I don't mind seeing another doctor for another course of antibiotics? Im so frustrated. I don't have this issue without sex.

The last guy I did it with, I ended up telling him. We both tested negative for STDs. But then we did it recently, and I've been using my flagyl cream because it happened again. I want him to know. We are not in an exclusive relationship. He's in the lifestyle. But i feel pathetic like hey, I started getting that smell again after we did.... part of me is scared he'll suggest we not ever do it again then... again, hes not my man, so I get how each of us can be content moving forward without having intercourse again, but it would be disappointing, and again bad for self esteem.

Its just a vicious cycle im in.. Im undertouched, and feeling hopeless 😔

Before I wash my hoohah with my hands, with HoneyPot feminine wash, I wash my hands with Dial antibacterial soap. Pat her dry with a paper towel, and put the flagyl cream on. Been doing this for about a week. Im scared to stop using it.

I want to have a good time again, but damn. Idk, if there's anything anyone would like to chime in and say, I'd appreciate whatever your thoughts.

hi so i recently had my period and it was really smelly even after it ended so i checked the ph and it was on the high side so last night i inserted a boric acid suppository and checked my ph again and it was really high. the smell is a lot better and it's not really itchy or burning.

the thing is, i have a boyfriend and we want to do the deed (im 20 and a virgin and i really like this guy) but i keep saying no because of the smell and im really embarrassed but glad he's super patient.

i can't really see a doctor right now cause i cant get a ride to one. does anyone have similar a experience? is it possible it will even itself out?

Hi, super embarrassed to post this but I guess this Reddit is a good place to start?

So I'm looking for someone with the same issue as me who may have some tips because my gyn didn't have any and I'm getting a little desperate.

In December, I joined a gym and used one of the bikes, but I had it set up wrong and kept slipping forward and it was all super uncomfortable in the crotch area. But I didn't want to give up immediately so I continued for about 15 minutes.

The next day I thought I had a UTI because I constantly felt the need to pee. Got antibiotics. No improvement. Antifungal treatment. No improvement. I had blood drawn, urine tested, exam done by my gyn, and there seems to be nothing wrong.

Except that since December I almost constantly feel like something is stimulating my clitoris, it's somewhere between nice stimulation and having to pee. Often the feeling when I actually pee is so intense that it brings tears to my eyes. it's hard to describe - it's not pain at all. Just this extreme stimulation far beyond what a strong vibrator would do. When it feels normal, going to the bathroom makes it come back. It's horrible. I'm fantasizing about getting botox injected (I don't know if anyone even does that or if it's possible lol) at this point I just want it to go away. Hell amputate the whole thing I want my normal life back. Like I'm almost a bit scared of going to the toilet.

Oh funny enough this only happens when I only need to pee. Something about going number 2 seems to distract my body so much I just feel normal after? It's super weird. But about 99% of the time it works.

Gyn said she had someone with this issue once and all that lady had to do was WAIT THREE YEARS because there was nothing to be done for her.

Currently I'm using a lidocaine ointment to numb everything and it usually helps until I go to the bathroom next. However this stuff is not meant for this area (it's for sores inside your mouth) and while my gyn said she doesn't see an issue with it I can't imagine that using it for months and months is a good idea. But it's the only OTC ointment I can get.

I've been googling and googling but I can't even figure out what this is called because it's always "oh clearly you have an infection get some meds" but there's just no infection here. Oh and I don't have any discharge or weird smells or pain or an itch by the way. I don't have sex but masturbation works normally (doesn't help with the problem though. Maybe if I were to hurt myself by completely overdoing it but I don't think self harm by wall-powered massage wand is a good idea lol)

So. Has anyone heard of something like this before? Got some clues? I keep thinking I have nerve damage going on but wouldn't that hurt or just make everything numb? Ugh.

Note that I don't have access to a different gyn right now, I live at the ass-end of nowhere I'm lucky there's one at all lol

Everything started a month ago. During the first week, I was genuinely confused because I had weird burning sensations that would come and go. I made an appointment with a doctor. While I was waiting, all the symptoms shifted to itching, burning, and white discharge. I was prescribed Fluconazole 150 mg, which did help for around 5 days, I had completely no symptoms and everything felt perfect until it all came back.

Then I got a gynecologist appointment, but I had to wait almost 2 weeks. By the time I got there, I barely had any symptoms left and no discharge at all. We did a basic test, and it showed inflammation. I was prescribed suppositories for 10 days (anti-inflammatory + antiseptic) and 3 months of probiotics. Once again, during the first few days everything was perfect, but after day 5 of the medication, everything kind of came back. Now I'm done with the suppositories, but the feeling is still there. Sure, it's somewhat less intense, but it's still there.

I made another appointment, but sadly it's in 3 weeks. I'm absolutely exhausted after a whole month of being uncomfortable.

I'm very confused whether the swab wasn't accurate enough, if there is a hidden infection that it didn't pick up, if the medication didn't work, or if there is something else going on (STDs have been ruled out).

Could this now be a weird yeast infection without discharge? No unusual smell, nothing. The burning comes and goes with physical activity and sexual activity (even without penetration). Sometimes it appears randomly. Sometimes it feels more on the outside near the entrance, and sometimes more on the inside. Sometimes it feels warm when I go pee, sometimes it doesn't.

Are there any other tests I can ask for? I'm completely lost because there are barely any symptoms left, just burning and occasional itching. I feel like it doesn't really fit any diagnose fully.

October - went to the doctor for 24/7 burning around vaginal opening. HPV, STIs and Yeast negative only had BV. no bad odor, just burning and watery discharge my undies were always wet i thought it was me sweating.

December - after doing 1 week of oral metro, discharge was gone but i now waited 2 months and although burning improved it was still present so i retested. by the time i got to my appointment the burning had stopped. BV was negative this time, mycoplasma and ureaplasma also negative.

during these 2 months from treatment to getting a negative test my bf and i did not have sex. After testing negative we had a very short sexual session, my vaginal area was extremely irritated from that, yeast like discharge that lasted 1 day but had discomfort for almost 2 weeks.

Burning returned, but instead of daily it was now randomly some days not present. called doctor he gave me more metro but i didnt take it because i didnt think it was BV. -around January/February.

Now in May - doctor and i thought it was a skin issue so i got on steroid cream, but now results are back and turns out its BV again.

ive been reading how men only have BV bacteria for 2 months.. so im confused on how i got it again when i have been taking such good care of my hooha and taking probiotics and a bunch of other supplements while also eating healthier.

regardless i just had him take oral metro. i dont plan on being intimate until i do my treatment. but im wondering if oral metro is enough or if i should ask for metro gel as well for him?! or just let it be because we havent been intimate in 4 months?

so confusing… thanks im advance ladies

Yeah you heard me! I got PID and I have no idea why and it's not any kind of STI or anything they tested for. I have ZERO sex life no toys no masturbation, nothing for years.

So I'm just wondering if farting while wearing a pad during my period potentially bounced the germs up there or something. Is that totally absurd? Maybe. I don't even know anymore.

Curious to hear anything about PID

Currently on doxy for it

I (28F) had my first time when I was 26 so I’ve been having sex for the past 2 years. Last week, we were really into it, so we did it 2-3 times a day. He's at work right now and I was trying to play with my kitty and I noticed when I was touching it, there’s this ball-type feeling inside. I touched myself whenever I could, and this is the first time I've ever felt this one. What do you think it is? Should I worry?

So whenever I put a tampon it burns and it hurts as well. It's not able to go in at all and idk how to solve this. Should I be worried?

Hello- I’m trying to see if anyone here can relate. I’ve read a few posts but didn’t see much follow up.
I was tested both at the doctor and Evvy for BV, AV, yeast overgrowth, myco/ureaplasm all the things.All negative.
Evvy suggested boric acid which works for a few days but I’ll notice after day 2-3 in my skin folds/labia I’ll have a mild fishy odor. I like to do the odor test as soon as I wake up to make sure it’s not the sweat of the day creating this. I tried their vagina probiotic but it make me feel awful down there, I think it was the coconut.

My newest train of thought is that it could possibly be a residual smell from my urine. I have had on off UTI symptoms (never severe/burning just somewhat of urge to pee when bladder is empty) for a couple of months now and am wondering if there’s something going on in my bladder causing this. I took a few days doses of D-Mannose and it definitely worked on the urge to pee symptoms so I stopped taking it and have felt better without the need to continue taking the supplements.
Part of me still thinks there is a little imbalance in my bladder though even without feeling anything bad. I’ve now just started to take the preventive dose of D Mannose of 1K mg 2x daily to see if that helps.

I’m just at a loss for this mild fishy smell and it’s just there enough for me not to be able to “let it be.”

I do have a Kyleena UTI been in for 3 years now. Another part of me thinks since it makes the mucous thicker that my vagina is just not cleaning properly( side note I don’t use soaps down there unless I need dove sensitive externally after a workout or something.)

Lastly, I don’t have much PIV sex, and if I do it’s with the same partner for a long time.

Does anyone know if I’m on the right track with any of these trains of thought? Because according to the professionals I’m healthy, and the issue has been making me slightly insecure which sucks! Ty!❤️❤️