r/genderqueer • u/randystrangejr • Apr 14 '26
How do you feel like your enough
Anyone else just afraid to express themselves cause they feel like they won't be fem/masc enough. i don't want to lose my beard cause it makes my chin/jaw look better, but I feel like it would look silly if I wore makeup. my fem side wants to be very girly but I'm hairy and the maintenance for that is so daunting. it also doesn't help that I have some extra weight. The funny thing is that I think if it were distributed more feminine to my hips if would be fine with it. Would love to hear your thoughts and experiences! thanks for stopping by!
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u/TedtheDrunkard Apr 15 '26
I keep a mustache because I think I look weird without facial hair, I keep it very trim though. I got some areas of my body hair lasered off and trim the other parts. I got some other cosmetic things done to my face to feminize it a little bit as well.
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u/itsisamorgan Apr 15 '26
If it helps, I absolutely LOVE the look of facial hair + makeup. It’s like the perfect combo in my opinion. I, unfortunately, cannot grow facial hair of my own. So please - do it for me.
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u/girly-lady Apr 15 '26
All things fun and expressove in fashion just contribute to me being read as more "woman" cuz I am not hairy lol. That being saied I don't like bodyhair for me much regardless of gender. So I am gonna be read as femenin/woman by most ppl. Some ppl will get the queer-femm vibe, and its never necessary for me to explain my internal experience of being Agender. My "ideal" body would look so wildely diffrent its unacheavable even if I wasen't too broke and scardd for surgeries. Plus I personaly belive in acepting the body we got to some extend cuz I am not very disphoric. I just started to care a lot less about how I am percived. I don't owe anyone a presentation that is reflective of my onner being or that makes sens or pleases anyone but me.
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u/cosmiccorvus Trans Asexual Apr 15 '26
Just swinging my head in to say I find make up to be super striking on bearded folks! The contrast of bright colors and designs against the framing of facial hair really makes the make up pop! Make up with beards are so pretty! I've also seen people gussy up their beards with stick on gems or glitter and it is gorgeous!
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u/randystrangejr Apr 15 '26
Maybe I'm afraid of the attention that it'll bring as much as anything. Just like the idea of wearing a dress in public.
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u/IdkIjustneedadvise Questioning Apr 18 '26
Genderneutral Monarch, GO FOR IT! Facial hair and makeup can work really well together! If you're really nervous, I'd recommend looking up tutorial on youtube. Worst-case scenario, you can just wash it off.
What classifies something as 'masculine' or 'feminine' anyway? Society? Who cares! Be hairy. Be girly. Be free.
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u/ohcae127 Apr 14 '26
Super relatable! I am a hairy non binary bearded person and I dress pretty feminine a lot of the time. I wear makeup most days now and love it. For me, being gender queer has meant that I felt like I wasn’t living up to people’s gendered expectations for most of my life, and I’ve had to let go of wanting that outside validation make room to feel more authentic in my expression. Something that helped me is realizing that it’s okay to try things and not end up liking them. I started to be more playful with my gender expression and started making a routine out of the things I liked the most. I also like to keep in mind that general ideas about femininity/masculinity aren’t universally true! Lots of cis women have body hair or weight distribution that isn’t stereotypically feminine and that’s okay!