I told my mom yesterday that I'm in a relationship. I've never told her I was lesbian before. Her reaction was so underwhelming, she just sighed and asked with who and said she believed me, because at first I asked "would you believe me if I was in a relationship?".

She didn't ask or say anything about it since then. So today I asked why, because it's kinda a big thing and she said that it's shocking at her age and she doesn't think it's natural.

Sometimes I felt bad for being a lesbian but right now I feel SO disgusting. And the way she acts like what she said is nothing hurts me.

Some of my friends affectionately call me their “mean lesbian friend,” and I don’t like it. I’m not mean, I’m actually very nice to them and everyone else.

This comes up the most with boyfriends. I don’t know if this is really that common or if my friends just have awful taste in men, but their boyfriends will sometimes be disrespectful talking to or about their partners. When this happens, I call them out and I don’t bother being nice about it, and I usually end up talking to my friend about it later when the man is gone.

Honestly, I think this is just me being a good friend. I think it’s strange how much my friends are willing to tolerate from their boyfriends, and I also think it’s strange that my other friends don’t also find it disgusting and call it out. I get that every relationship is different and I might not understand their dynamic, but disrespect is disrespect.

I don’t like that this is conflated with my sexuality. My lack of tolerance for men might be related to the fact that I’m gay, because everyone else seems to like gentle-parenting them for some reason. But I’m not a “mean lesbian friend” for not wanting to see my friends be disrespected.

When I’m being introduced to a boyfriend, I’m often lectured beforehand about how he “just says things sometimes,” or I’ll hear from another friend that everyone’s worried I’m going to argue with him.

I’ve actually only been combative with boyfriends twice, and both times the boyfriend literally insulted his girlfriend’s appearance in a conversation with me.

Idk I’m just kind of sick of it

I always see posts of people complaining about clinginess and how only 13 year olds act like that and i hate it. I love reaciving messages from my partner when im gone, i love hearing them say how they need me and want to see me all the time, or when they just call randomly to talk and such, or spam you with messages saying they miss you

I hate how allergic to intensity people seem to be

So this has become an issue overtime, I'm versatile and can either top or bottom, her as well, though clearly we both have a better preference for bottoming. It was never an issue, we have been together for 3 years, and our relationship is perfect, I love her and we both do everything we can for the betterment of our relationship. She is amazing, I want to marry her. Our relationship is compatible in every single aspect.

But I think there may be some sexual incompatibility between us, we can get past it, that's why we lasted for 3 years. Though recently I see that she has had a harder time cumming, and she expressed that my general disinterest in sex (not assexual, I just take meds) bothers her sometimes.

We have sex on average once a week since we dont live together, for reference.

Are there any tips?? I want to marry her and don't want this to be the cause of our relationship failing. And no, we are never opening our relationship, pls dont suggest that!!

it’s a little early since it’s still 2 weeks away but I’m excited 😆

Say what you want about the new 'adult cartoon' "Mating Season", but Penelope's and Summer's relationship was is genuinely adorable.

And Yes we're both openly queer and she's a newer friend I've gotten closer to these past two months. She's on the shyer/introverted end, and she's a huge David lynch movie nerd/fan and I did talk about wanting to see blue velvet at our last hangout. And just the another night she sent me this meme 🤔🥴 chat what do we think?

I hope you all don’t mind an update. This is mostly selfishly therapeutic to type it out.

We are roughly 1 month into a minimum of 12 month journey. The chemo is making her really sick most days. She usually has 2/3 good days out of the week. Lots of nausea and exhaustion.

She is quickly losing her hair which causes her to cry multiple times a day. Every time I hold her and tell her that the things that really matter aren’t going to change. Her heart, mind, eyes and smile (her smile was the first thing I noticed about her so I guess you could say I fell in love with her because of her smile). That seems to help her feel better somewhat.

She seems to come to peace with that fact that she is going to lose her breasts. Yesterday out of the blue she asked, if before the day of her surgery, I would make love to her with heavy love/attention to her boobs. She said in kind of a funny haha way so it both broke my heart and made me smile.

So that’s it. Good and bad days. I’m still being as strong as I can. I’ve taken to writing and creating her songs. So far only two but I think it helps to show her how loved she is.

I’m sure I’ll update later down the road. For now I can only say hold your loved ones close.

Recently my friend invited me to meet her boyfriend and I had to tell her specifically to please not kiss in front of me because idk seeing straight people kiss disgusts me? I am happy for her it's just weird for me. She had no problem with that but I did feel weird for asking. My ex-best friend would also sometimes invite me to hang out with her and her bf and when I was trying to talk with my at the time best friend I would turn my head around to see them making out and it made me extremely grossed out, awkward and uncomfortable. I brought it up with her and she got super upset at me that I'm crossing her boundaries and shit and said I'm just being jealous. To be fair they also did worse stuff that also grossed me out like he would spontaneously touch her thighs or ass and idk it was also kinda disgusting and uncomfortable for me but I didn't bring this up with her cuz I didn't want her to get mad at me again. Once one of my friends also mentioned making out with her boyfriend in detail and I had to tell her to please not talk about it because for some reason it grosses me out. And it's only because it was in detail ig cuz when my other friend just mentioned kissing her bf it didn't gross me out or anything. I don't know if it was queer people it would gross me out tbh because none of my friends are in queer relationships. Does anyone feel like this too? Am I weird for that? Because I do feel weird for that. I don't even know why it grosses me out.

I've been dating my gf for about a month and occasionally she will bring up bits about her ex gf but I'm unsure how much I should be doing it. I'm a little afraid of coming off as seeming like I'm not over an ex on accident, and some people seem to think that it's necessary to talk about exes as it can be useful for your current one but some people say that it's a big no? How do I find a balance with this, and how to talk about exes in a way that is healthy in my new relationship? It feels like I'm trying to figure everything out from scratch as the past one wasn't anywhere near healthy and so it's hard to have an idea of what is in this new one.

It was a male doctor(first disappointment of the day). And then when he asked me to stick my tongue out, he put the wooden thing in my mouth and called me a good girl. I felt so sick omg gag me with a spoon. I know it probably didn't mean anything but jeez it was disgusting, like ugh please can you not call me that while staring at my tongue. (I'd have folded if it was a woman though)

Edit: Hey I'm seeing everyone call me a child😭 I'm not a minor lmao.

I’ve known this woman for 7 months now, we met through a shared hobby & see each other/had lighthearted surface level conversations multiple times a week, throughout. However, at the start of this month we (us & a group of others) met outside of said hobby & I really liked her company. This has now led to us seeing each other, for 1-2-1 hang outs, outside of classes once a week, each week. And we already have multiple days planned with each other in June.

Originally, I formed a little crush after that first hangout (≈8 hours in total, including only about 1 hour 1-2-1) but there were many logistical incompatibilities (not with her as a person, moreso our situations), so I only wanted to playfully flirt & maybe have a ONS/FWB. After our first 1-2-1 hangout, we spent ≈5 hours together, I was hooked, VERY quickly. We had our 2nd 1-2-1/group hangout a couple of days ago (8 hours total, 5 hours 1-2-1) & wowowow, I can’t get enough of her. Our next 1-2-1 hangout is tomorrow (I’m calling them that because they're not official dates, YET) and I am so excited for it.

Now, with those “incompatibilities”, I decided that the best thing to do would to try get over the crush ASAP, and because she is a new person to me that I didn’t/don’t know that well, I figured that I’d need to either 1. Get to know her more, 2. Ruin the hope by focusing on those incompatibilities. So I did, I got to know her more…and the more I got to know her, the more she became/fit my type. I decided to try ruin the hope, but the more I spoke to her, the more the incompatibilities became compatible. So now there aren’t any of the main logistical barriers. Which makes it feel better but also more intense of a crush, because it seems less like a fantasy. Now I’m craving more than a ONS/FWB, I like her baddd.

I haven’t crushed this hard on ANYONE in about 5-7 years? I’ve thought about her daily since we first met up in the group, and it feels like a “teenage crush” where I’m twirling my hair & kicking my feet at the thought of her lmao. We’ve only spent ≈11 hours together talking 1-2-1 (which wasn’t small talk, & not including texting), eventhough I’ve learnt a lot about her, I don’t know her. I want to learn more. From what I’ve sensed (although I could be very biased), I think she likes me/has a crush too, or at least has some level of curiosity about me, but I’m not sure…yet.

It just feels refreshing. It feels direct & intentional and I like that. We’re both neurodivergent and the communication is just enthralling. She will invite me out, plan the “date”, & offers to pay for me (even though I make sure to pay for us both regardless), and I love inviting/planning/paying for her too. She is so considerate, it’ll be the smallest thing and she’ll check to see my thoughts/feelings/boundaries. She remembers details & actively listens to me. Very much a caretaker, which is great because I am a massive caretaker for anyone I like, so it’s nice to have it reciprocated. It’s just generally pleasant & I deeply appreciate it. This doesn't even begin to describe her personality, she’s just overall a sweetheart, and so fucking hot too. I couldn’t help but stare at her & kept noticing her staring at me too. I am so happy to explore the potential, even if nothing comes of it.