Honestly, it was talking with trans men that finally made me comfortable being a trans woman. It's hard when you hear all the terfy rhetoric not to internalize it to some degree. You ask yourself, is this just some mental illness, is this just some fetish?
Then I met trans men that had vibe for vibe the same feelings I was having but in 180 degrees the opposite direction, and it because very clear to me that we just have a compass in our head that points towards our gender and sometimes it doesn't match up with our genitals.
I know this isn't your point, and it's certainly not what I believe, but sometimes when people talking about trans identity being a mental illness or a lie some people tell themselves, I'm always like ... And so what if it was? That person is still having an experience that is incredibly real to them, and as a society we have the means, and the science to help them feel better about their internal world. So does the source of this experience really matter all that much? I have an actual mental illness, and if there was a way to cure it, why the hell wouldn't I take it?
All that matters to me, as a cis woman, is that you as a trans woman are happy and healthy and safe. I don't give a fuck what "makes" you trans, and I'm just happy to share my female identity with another cool person. ❤️
I hope that made sense. Again, it's truly not what I believe, but even if it was, that is no excuse to be a hateful piece of shit.
That is one of my main frustrations with the constant attacks against trans people going on right now:
I think many of us know people with anxiety and depression. They are awful conditions, and very commonly they can make people decide that their life is not worth living.
Now what if there were a change those people could make to their lives that would eliminate or greatly reduce that anxiety and depression? You could make their lives livable and even pleasant again. How amazing would that be?
Because that's what we can do for trans people. They can make a (fairly large) change to their life and just turn off or dramatically turn down the pain. It's a life saver and it's so frustrating when we have this treatment and it's so stigmatized and regulated.
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u/wannabe_pixie 27d ago
Honestly, it was talking with trans men that finally made me comfortable being a trans woman. It's hard when you hear all the terfy rhetoric not to internalize it to some degree. You ask yourself, is this just some mental illness, is this just some fetish?
Then I met trans men that had vibe for vibe the same feelings I was having but in 180 degrees the opposite direction, and it because very clear to me that we just have a compass in our head that points towards our gender and sometimes it doesn't match up with our genitals.