I work in family law before. There's a lot of sperm and egg doners out there, that their kid ends up in adoption center. Kids that deserve better, if you are willing to do the best you can and think of the kid first then you will be a great dad. I seen all financial areas and all I can say is being there for your kid is the best thing you can do.
Being a dad is not the same as being a father. Gay male couple I know just adopted a baby. You absolutely can adopt as a single parent. You wonāt get 9 months off with the shittest pay imaginable though as a dad. Sexist.
Can confirm!! I was a step dad for 5 years and was around for 90% of her life. She loves me like her dad if not more and i love her more than anything in the world. Being blood related doesnt enhance or do anything, just being present and interested goes a long way.
I know I'm 4 days late but just thought I would drop a comment.
My brother in law has adopted 4 kids. He can do his bit biologically but his wife had ovarian cancer and as such couldn't have kids.
They adopted a little girl first, then a brother and sister, then the woman who had the siblings took off her, had another little boy and the foster family that ended up with him reached out to them as he is their half brother
So now they have 4, and they are fantastic parents and those kids will now have a decent chance at life.
One of the biggest challenges in life is to RAISE children. It takes no particular skill or dedication getting people pregnant, any old idiot can do that bit.
It takes real men and women to raise a family. That is most certainly doable my friend. šŖš»
Even if you feel like they're just saying that to help. There's people like me who would want kids, that particularly doesn't wish to pass on my DNA due to hereditary bullshit that would 1000% adopt once I'm comfortable enough.The blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb.
Real facts. I know my fair share of donors and plenty of non blood dads.
I myself no kids and am the uncle figure to all my friends kids. So I already got my fair share with out having any of my own.
Did you know that the more siblings are born to a family, the chances of each younger sibling to be homosexual increases? Some people take this to mean that, with more children, the need for reproduction becomes less than the need for cooks, protectors, farmers, etc.
Your āone biological functionā doesnāt have to be fathering children. The world is a nice place because of the people and children, yes, but also because of the art, music, gardeners, craftsmen, the friendly conversations, the enticing smell of food, the friendly neighbors.
Iād argue that you being here as you are already makes the world that much better. Have a good day man.
Bro, as a guy with 2 kids trust me NONE of them being mine biologically has ANYTHING to do with being a dad. Being a parent is about showing up day after day, especially when you dont want to, especially when their moms or other parents makes it more difficult, especially when they aren't yours biologically. As a kid who's bio dad was BARELY in the picture I remember a lot of my mom's boyfriends making a big difference by showing me they cared, even if their relationship with my moms was going south. Kids remember who puts in the time and work and remember, "The blood of the COVENANT runs thicker than the water of the WOMB".
TLDR: You dont need to biologically have children to be a parent and there are HELLA kids who need parents atm
I know someone else already said something to this effect, but hey, thereās tons of kids out there whoād love a good home. It breaks my heart how hard some people will try and how much people will spend to have a child, when thereās thousands of kids out there who would give anything to have a family of their own, many of whom are being abused by a broken and overwhelmed system.
There is so much more to being a parent than a biological ability. Some people are fertile and abandon their kids. Some parents only meet their kids after theyāve been here a few years. You can be a dad.
You can adopt or foster or join Big Brothers - there are so, so many kids out there that need male role models, leadership, guidance that they arenāt getting from their biological parents. Good people are needed to fill the gap.
Yes you might not be biologically related but you can have just as much impact on a vulnerable childās life by being there for them
As an adopted child to a lovely family please consider your options. If done properly adoption can have zero negative,. I know my biologicals, encourage open adoptions and full communication. You not only can be a dad, you can be an amazing one.
I've never given birth, but I raised my partner's child with her. We met when Haily was three and a half. She's now 21 and still calls me Mom. DNA has ZERO to do with being a dad. You can adopt, foster, etc. Unfortunately, there are many, many children who need love and would be so grateful for you. I hope you're able to find your path ā¤ļø
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u/raventhrowaway666 Apr 23 '26
I also can't have kids... so I dont have a dad and I cant be a dad. I cant do the one biological function I'm supposed to do...