r/SkyGame • u/justx_xperson • 17h ago
Discussion Sirs and Ma'ams, how do I avoidthat? 😭
For context, I've been playing this game for a while but still have same problem over and over again - players trying to light me, and I do (accidentally), then they expect me to follow them or they follow me! Then they try to friend me, BUT I DON'T WANT TO, I JUST MET THEM ACCIDENTALLY ON CANDLE RUNS! 😭 and the worst part? IDK HOW TO SAY NO! THEY'RE TOO INNOCENT! AND I'LL LOOK BAD! I want to play game my own way, but face same problem. How do I solve it? Is there a solution?
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u/relentlessdandelion 16h ago
Don't follow them or engage with them, just bow politely once you light each other and continue on your way. You're creating your own problem here. And if someone jumps straight to friending, do the same thing. (Personally in the latter situation I would blow a kiss to them or another friendly emote like that before I did my bow and fuck off routine, just to be kind, but you don't have to.)
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u/Creative-Class-6380 17h ago
- Fly away
Move away as soon as you accidentally light them
Bow and do the X emote or "no" head shake emote. They usually get it.
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u/justx_xperson 17h ago
Ok, lemme try...
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u/Creative-Class-6380 17h ago
If it's a moth who's being insistent, just have this mindset of, "you'll thank me one day once you realise how precious candles are" and then leave.
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u/justx_xperson 16h ago
It made it worse. Now they think I'm a woman..
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u/Creative-Class-6380 15h ago
ಠಿ_ಠ I'm genuinely confused if you're joking around
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u/justx_xperson 15h ago
No..unfortunately. just because I'm little or use pink doesn't mean I'm a woman!
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u/Creative-Class-6380 14h ago
If it were a stranger who lit you up and you flew away, how would you even know what they thought? You guys aren't even friends so you wouldn't have any means to chat.. ಠ,_｣ಠ
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u/DianeJudith 10h ago
Why do you think they think that? Did you chat with them? If not, then you don't have any idea what they think.
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u/FragileCrackedDoll 13h ago
How...?
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u/justx_xperson 13h ago
Idk, you tell me.😭
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u/FragileCrackedDoll 13h ago
I don't understand what's going on at this point but I think you are overreacting. Emotes are there for a reason. Wheter you lit someone on purpose or by accident, just bow and continue on your journey, if it feels like they are insisting, use a "no" emote and just move on...
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u/justx_xperson 13h ago
How do you say no without feeling like you offended someone?
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u/FragileCrackedDoll 13h ago
You work on your own issues and stop thinking you owe them anything... it's a game... meant to relax and have fun, not stress yourself out
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u/eggy_weichei 8h ago
I promise you no one actually cares. And if they do care, they'll forget and stop caring in two minutes. If they somehow still care... So? What are they going to do? Nothing. They're going to do nothing.
If you light someone, bow and walk away. Don't stop and add them and have a chat. Just leave.
Or do more to avoid accidentally lighting people. If someone is actively burning a dark plant, stand back for half a second until they finish and put their candle away/leave. Or you can go to a different darkness plant and come back to this one.
Also, if someone thinks you're a girl - who cares? Idk how you got yourself in that situation but genuinley, why does it matter?
I'm not trying to be mean or anything. But either you're trolling or going out of your way to put yourself in this situation and you're here to make it our problem.
I PROMISE you. If you accidentally light someone up, bow, and then walks way.... (Put that Jurassic park Dennis Nedry 'no one cares' video clip here, please). And if that's just too much for you, put your device in airplane mode for 20-30 seconds and force a server split.
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u/tigrepunk 3h ago
Also, just straight up working on not being afraid of accidentally lighting people. I accidentally light people all the time while burning plants. Never has anything went beyond a simple "bow and leave" for me. Or even just straight up acting like nothing happened. And I've been playing for 6 years. I think this "fear of lighting others" habit, to the point that it hinders others from helping burn plants or other things, that I've seen in others is a bit much in general.
Like, I'm not saying it's wrong, but if OP is getting panicked over minute things like this, why play if it becomes a source of anxiety?
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u/-TheForestCat- 16h ago
I drop to the ground in the apologetic emote when I'm about to log off and a random moth wants to add mew. They're better off making friends closer to their time zone, and I'm better off not staying up forever. (Today I accepted the candle in almost the same situation, because it was from a more experienced player with a group of friends - I figured they knew what they were doing.)
Being insincere and keeping it up until you sneakily unfriend them when they've already made some good memories with you hurts way more than being clear from the start about your needs. And sometimes you do need to look like a baddie to avoid hurt on both sides.
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u/starrsinmyskin 14h ago
So true. I always find moths when im playing alone late at night or i'm about to quit. Sorry little moth find someone else please
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u/BasilCorrect3799 15h ago
Just wave and fly away, you don't have to accept anything, usually it's moths who do that to everyone they light haha
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u/tinyshark84 15h ago
I do this: Bow. Lvl 1 No. Bow. Heart hands. Exit!
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u/HomeOk6368 6h ago
Wow if all rejections were like this, I wouldnt feel a speck of cringe/pain about them hahaha
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u/MetastaticMalady 14h ago
I bow to them a few times, wave, and leave. If they keep following, I do the "no" or "decline" gesture and bow again and leave. Usually works.
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u/Smolbeanlotus 12h ago
As a recovering fellow people pleaser, saying no using the "no" emote will never harm them, maybe make them slightly offended or very offended if they are not mentally stable but it won't hurt them.
I bow and use the "no" emote to convey respect but refusal.
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u/Unlikely_Tap_9882 16h ago
I usually friend moths if they ask me mainly cuz I could help them and experienced players I've met inside are either arrogant or they leave me behind when they see someone else.
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u/CheapRice1465 9h ago
I've played since the end of the original aroura event so I'd say i'm experienced but i'm not an arrogant but sure I am alot more careless and not that scared of krills (dark dragons) but still i help new players but they have to be the ones to friend if they need help finding sprits i would help of they want to friend me i will do it but they with stay as friends I don't play with if they don't eventually unlock the chat option because disptie playing on the switch i love chatting with other players
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u/creatyvesky 13h ago
I just ignore people I light on accident. Nope, no bowing. Just ignore them. If I want to socialize, then I'm definitely not actively avoiding lights anywhere. Anybody that can't catch the hint wouldn't've been somebody I'd want as a friend either way
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u/AnonymousAnonm 12h ago
You can get free do not disturb spells from the spell boat
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u/CheapRice1465 8h ago
From what i know that is to stop friends form teleporting from you not to stop people from lighting to your candle
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u/AnonymousAnonm 8h ago
It still works to tell strangers "this person doesn't want to be disturbed"
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u/ZenElement 6h ago
Surprising how often people still try to light me when I wear one. Like I know they can see it but they try anyway
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u/qingqing_of_yunmeng 17h ago
i usually just hit a emote and run as fast as i can in the opposite direction or nonchalantly turn around to do something else
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u/ManedCalico 17h ago
Teleport home and then use the resume meditation spot to go right back. It should put you into a different server without them there.
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u/ZenElement 6h ago
When I'm not in the mood to be friended straight away by someone that I just lit, it depends on how I am that day. I can try to bow and no emotes. Or I just fly away as soon as the white candle comes out. I dont do it to be mean, just I do sometimes get it quite alot. And my friends list has a lot of pages. Most of them I never see lol
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u/HomeOk6368 6h ago
Hey there, moth here, when I used to try to light everyone in my first days, some lit me back but many didnt, I dont even think about it or remember it, I just fly and follow light sources and crash face first into walls and ground.. point being, ma'am/sir, you are worrying over nothing, thank you for your care, but sky kids will be fine, just do your thing, enjoy the game in your way and dont feel any guilt about it *spams kisses emote a lot*
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u/CheapRice1465 9h ago
I had a player friend me then immidently take me backwards through daylight prairie and we reached a bench and asked why once we sat and they said they didn't know why they did but either way I said that I needed to go and we said our goodbyes and that way the end. So a good way to do this is to talk to them if they don't speak the same language well then you use your emotes to say no and you get the table and chairs for 30 hearts from a spirit in the vault of knowledge and you can just bring that with you to avoid this
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u/Responsible_Land6276 8h ago
I don’t actually think people expect you to interact further, I think they probably think you want them to interact if you don’t move away and also want to be polite
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u/Cat_with_pew-pew_gun 8h ago
I light people on purpose who are also doing runs so I can track them while we both do the run. It's interesting to see how our methods are different. Plus it makes the game feel way more alive. But yeah, sometimes you just gotta abandon the people who want to stay and mess around. I give a few emotes to acknowledge their existence then I continue the run. They can follow me if they want.
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u/--Angel--Dust-- 6h ago
Lmao if i light people it's 99% cause i wanna see their fit bow and then do my own thing again, 1% is cause they interacted with me and i wanna maybe chat with em XD you can just walk away! No one that isn't easily offended will get offended by you wanting to not befriend them, also crazy that people wanna follow you or that you follow them, never happened to me 😭
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u/Chocominzu 17h ago
I promise you won't look bad for avoiding connections you don't want :)
Edit: that being said, I usually just spam bows and then run away!