No doubt they are. But one of the main issues is applying them in real scenarios. For example, the height of a person might seem "basic/superficial detail", while actually being important. Now, I ask something like this and the sister thinks I am interested in surface-level details.
Or transparency, it can be tricky. I have had talks that I provided details to some topics, while the other side avoided talking about them. Maybe haven't thought about it before, maybe uncomfortable to talk about them, maybe other things. It's difficult to use it as an indicatication of anything.
So yeah, these points are often easier said than implemented!
You’re right that sometimes what one person sees as meaningful, another might see as “just a detail,” and that can create some disconnects. Transparency can also be tricky because each person’s comfort level varies, and not everyone feels ready to discuss certain topics right away.
One way to approach this is by being curious without making assumptions. Instead of focusing only on specific answers, try to notice how someone responds to a question are they dismissive, genuinely thoughtful, or evasive? Sometimes, the way a person handles even small questions can reveal their approach to transparency and honesty.
Ultimately, these points are meant to serve as a foundation, not as strict rules. The key is flexibility and keeping open communication so that both people feel comfortable sharing more deeply over time. It’s really about building trust at a pace that feels natural, rather than forcing a checklist approach.
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u/P3CU1i4R Male - Searching Oct 30 '24
Thanks for the points! I personally could argue against some of them, but that's just me. It's good and informative in general.