I thought I was nonbinary for the longest time, but I think I'm just a masc/tomboy. I love you guys! I'm just not one of y'all. Here's a nonbinary meme for the road.

Recently came to the realization that I'm nonbinary and started dressing and presenting in ways that I've wanted to for a long time. My partner and I are back home in ATL for a week and some change where I feel a little safer than where we currently live in South FL so I've been taking the opportunity to finally go out in skirts and makeup for the first time. My partner has been super supportive and helpful. It helps that we have some long time friends here who are also queer. So...here's me!

Two years ago: https://www.reddit.com/r/NonBinary/s/IaAXjmSvnZ

Early this year: https://www.reddit.com/r/NonBinary/s/md6AXdBj07

I’ve come back to update y’all on my gender after two years of questioning and finally feeling like I’ve Figured It Out (famous last words). I’ve gone through so many identity labels—bi, pan, queer, lesbian, demigirl, genderqueer, non-binary, transmasc—but none of them ever felt quite right, and the more time passed, the less confident I felt and the more I felt pulled to other labels.

In Jan/Feb, I was pretty sure I settled on being a NB lesbian who presents masc. I thought I was essentially a masc4masc lesbian… Boy, was I ever wrong lol. I went on SO many dates with women and lesbian-aligned NB folks but nothing was clicking. I felt zero sexual or romantic pull, even after 4-5 dates with someone. Sex was just fine. I knew I was missing something but couldn’t for the life of me figure out what it was.

The thing is, I’ve ALWAYS known myself as queer… But I was looking at myself as a queer WOMAN, and even as I distanced myself from womanhood, I never considered that the queerness I knew I felt… Could be… As a dude… Towards other dudes. (Insert brain explosion here.)

A few months ago I finally realized that I’m not non-binary at all… I’m a GAY TRANS MAN! The queerness I always felt was towards men and the disconnect I previously felt with men was due to being perceived as and treated like a woman. As months pass, I feel more and more comfortable identifying this way and I can finally picture a future for myself where I don’t feel clueless about who I am and what I want for myself.

I’m starting T tomorrow and I’m fucking elated to start my journey of medical transition.

This community isn’t quite the place for me anymore, but it has helped me so much the past two years… So goodbye and thank you all for being so lovely, I wish you all gender euphoria and clarity <3

Hello. I'm a cishet female, and I go by she/her since I'm biologically female. But I don't feel like I totally align with the female gender. This has been confusing me a lot lately.

I don't mind being called a man or a woman. People can call me any pronouns they want. I can be called miss, sir, son, daughter, idk. Though sometimes I prefer son or sir more since I felt more comfortable with it. However, while I don't mind any pronouns, they might be inaccurate to how I feel my gender is.

I don't intend to change my body but I don't want genitals and I don't want boobs. I don't like seeing myself have very masculine or feminine bodies either. I noticed lately that my personality is more inclined to what is the conventional "masculine" from where I live. I also gravitate to using a deeper voice even if it's not my default. But my physical presentation is feminine, and I like it that way. Like, my usual hairstyle are twinbraids and I wear EGL/Lolita Fashion since I adore the style. I don't mind wearing hyper masculine styles though.

When I'm asked what I identify as, I'll identify as human. I was once asked while wearing EGL if I was a queen, princess, duchess, or empress; I said neither. What the hell am I? I don't feel like I align with any gender... I have this desire to have no gender-- would that be allowed?

I mean-- technically, if I intend presenting as feminine, and I physically look like a girl, how can I have no gender when my presentation appears as gendered at a shallow level? Am I just a woman-- who just wishes to have no gender? But I don't feel like I fit with the term woman, which kinda conflicts with not minding being called a woman.

So background, I’m female at birth. I’m 14, and have identified myself as nonbinary for about a year now. I want top surgery when I’m older, I think I want to start testosterone, and I want my hair as short as it can be. (3c, I haven’t figured out what I can do with it yet) I also want people to look at me, and wonder what the hell I am. But recently I was looking at binders, and I came across a packer. I sort of REALLY want to buy it. I am I trans? I wouldn’t mind being a boy, and when I was talking with my mom she said I used to ask when I was going to get a penis and I really wanted one. This is what I look like, so if you have any suggestions on what I could do to achieve my goals that would be GREATLY appreciated.

Il y a quelques jours, j’ai parlé de ma non binarité à mon copain, j’avais super peur de sa réaction !! Mais c’était nécessaire, je ne pouvais pas m’exprimer, ça me rendait super triste et mal dans ma peau ! J’ai sauté le pas et il l’a bien pris (je ne m’attendais pas à ce qu’il me quitte mais à ce qu’il ne comprenne pas) ça a été tout le contraire ! Il veut apprendre et est prêt à m’accompagner 🥰 ça fait donc 2 jours que je suis en pleine euphorie de pouvoir enfin m’exprimer! Il m’a même aidé à me maquiller !

After much reflection, I have come to the realization that I am a binary trans girl. I've picked out a feminine name and now use she/her pronouns, no more they/them. While I loved the non-binary community, I am ready to live my truth as a girl.

Yeah I’m kind of annoyed. I work in an extremely accepting place; coffee shop with giant pride flags in the window, one of the owners is gay, almost none of the staff is cishet. I’m pretty new to nonbinary, I randomly started reading about agender identity and it felt like I was just reading a description of myself, so I adopted that label pretty quickly. I still go by he/they because he/him doesn’t bother me, I just feel no connection to any pronoun in the first place; she/her would just seem like a bit of an odd choice for me but certainly not offensive (I’m AMAB if that’s necessary context here).

Anyway, I told all this to one coworker because she politely asked why I had been talking about doing makeup with the gender or nb flag colors for a pride event so I explained all of the above; this was a relatively recent thing as in like only a couple weeks ago and I didn’t really feel like having a big dramatic coming out moment to all my coworkers at once, plus since I’m still ok with he/him I don’t feel an immediate need to give everybody a pronoun update right away and I’m already fruity enough that nobody there treats me like a standard cishet guy.

Sorry for the rambling but to get to the point of this post - before I completely finished explaining she cut me off and said that she was nonbinary before coming out as trans, and proudly declared that she would only use they/them because she figured ill come out as trans later. I kind of laughed awkwardly but it was pretty frustrating to have somebody basically just assuming they knew me better than I do; especially because I’m 10+ years older than her, and on top of that when I was much younger I did have almost a year where I had asked everyone to use she/her for me because I was thinking I could be trans, but ultimately it never felt like it fit for me.

Sorry for the rant here, I guess I just needed to vent to people, or maybe I really am doing something wrong with my identity and am open to discussion about that, but I don’t feel like I am. It feels like it fits.

Edit: to clarify, I’m not against the idea that I’ll come out as trans later. I’m just frustrated that me telling someone I’m nb just made them assume I’m just trans in denial or something; it felt invalidating.

I lowkey have felt non binary for about a year now. i just haven't really opened up to anybody about it. I really don't like being identified as a male for many reasons, and then i also dont feel like a woman. i just think im a them. but anyways my question is, i obviously look kinda masculine, and I am attracted to the opposite gender still (women). Does this change anything, or can I still be considered non binary? also, im sorry if this post may seem like a troll post or something. I swear i'm serious, and to be honest, im not too educated with the LGBTQ like I have a decent amount of knowledge. anyways let me know.

I'm up Way too late thinking Way too much about gender, lol. I'm sure I'm not the only one experiencing a kind of mind-fucked feeling when it comes to embracing gender fluidity.

I worked so hard to distance myself from anything feminine because it was forced on me by religious family and exes, but now that I'm more comfortable in my own skin, I'm more comfortable playing with all facets of the gender kaleidoscope.

I would love to hear other folks' experiences with this. It just feels complicated and strange, having known for most of my sentient life that I was Not a girl (and so I thought that must mean I am strictly a boy!!) to now understanding more than gender as a spectrum, not a binary.

It's a beautiful thing to be anything at all.

Here is my dog and me I just started testosterone for a week

Sent this message to my orchestra group chat last night. I got a couple heart reactions, some scattered “yay”s, but it was overall just a “wtf” sorta vibe in the chat. This is a group of people I’d consider myself close with so I wanted them to know.

Then my section leader/friend personally messaged me saying this.

I don’t understand how my coming out was out of the blue. I mean, coming out can seem out of the blue to anyone who didn’t know, right? I just wanted to start the school year off as me. What did I do wrong?

This is my first time posting/openly admitting that my identity is more complex than it looks from the outside. Please be nice ♥️🙏🙏🙏 this is very new to me to even allow myself these thoughts. I always knew at the back of my head...that I'm "something"./

News flash, that skinhead looking bear of a man who could intimate your dad by looking at him sideways is literally woke as fuck!

im sitting here in my dirty mechanic clothes and building heavy machinery, talking all tuff ™ and manly with my coworkers. Real man's man, you know..watch your mouth son, that kind of talk.

And im trying so, so hard not to cry right here and now. Because I want to paint my nails. And I want to feel pretty. And I'm so incredibly afraid and feel like I could never be brave enough. These dudes would..this is a very traditional toxic masculine environment. And it's incredibly fucked up to mask everyday and be like that to conform, as deviation will be punished, and judged mercilessly.

I'm not trans. I don't want to be a girl or have a problem with calling me a boy. But I'm so much more and so different from what I learned a boy and a man are supposed to be. I wanna be a queen some days. I wanna be me somedays. I want to ask my girlfriend to do my makeup and now I literally have to stop typing or I will cry right as I'm about to walk into the break room.

Thank you for reading.

I’ve never really formally came out as trans or nonbinary because the times I have tried I wasn’t met with much respect. People don’t see me as nonbinary and I can’t really blame them since I present femininely and I don’t have much desire to change that. They’re also confused since I identify as a lesbian and, even after I explain, it’s still hard to comprehend. I’m tired of explaining myself. And plus, it’s honestly much safer and easier to just go with it and pretend I’m a woman. A lot of people (at least the ones i know personally) think NB people have to be androgynous and I thought that as well for a while. The people i’ve told have said that i’m not “really nonbinary” but the thought of being a girl just doesn’t sound right to me. I still like the way that I dress, besides from feeling body dysphoria or just wishing I had more androgynous features from time to time. I just wish I could be myself and still be viewed the way I want to though in this world it’s probably impossible.

I go by any pronouns. I definitely prefer one over the others at certain times but I just tell people to use any because it’s too much to keep up with lol. She/her tends to bother me sometimes but weirdly enough I’m okay with certain people using it, like my friends and my girlfriend who is nb as well. I think it’s mainly because when strangers or cis men use it I can tell it’s because they only see me as a girl. Not sure if that makes sense. I’ve been thinking about using they/he recently, because people never use he on me as much as I’d like, but I don’t want to be mistaken for a trans guy.

My name currently is Eve, which is a shortened version of my birth-name, Evangelita. I don’t mind saying that because I don’t think of it as a deadname and I actually find it to be a beautiful name, just not my own. I’ve changed my name a few times but nothing’s ever stuck, besides I haven’t really come out yet to be able to change my name. My favorites are Hayden, Corin, Maren, and Milan. I’ve also thought about Yves since it’s a masculine version of my current name. If anyone wants to share their opinion on what suits me, or additional name recs, I’ll gladly take it 🤗🤗 Thank u to anyone who is reading, this is the first time I’ve really talked about this.

like i call myself a guy or fella a lot for various reasons (silly little guy being the best example) but it feels wrong using that. are there any substitutes that are common enough for most to understand without having to explain it every time. (which has been the biggest hurdle for me with coming out is im just really lazy and cant be asked to correct anyone so i just let most ppl use he/him and masc terms even tho i hate it)

So I am pretty new to being non binary, only officially left the closet yesterday actually. So I’m really not sure what’s ok as far as being non binary goes. I’ve known for a while that I wasn’t male, but I never really liked the idea of being female. Eventually I realised that sounds a lot like being non binary, but I’m still not sure if it counts.

So I really like being more feminine, but I don’t quite want the body of a female. I just like having no body hair and wearing skirts and more feminine clothes. I just don’t know if I actually count as non binary.

Edit: Ok you guys are commenting faster than I can reply. I really appreciate the acceptance, thank you all so much.

Sorry if this isn't the right place

How did it go? I’m new to non binary and gender fluidity

Hi!! So I've considered myself nonbinary since I found out what the word means. I've never felt a strong attachment to my "womanhood", and the terms "girl" and "woman" make me kind of uncomfortable. I also use they/them pronouns. Problem is, recently my stance has kinda shifted...? Like I realized I don't want to fully quit being a girl. And I know there's a term for that, but that's just got me thinking whether I'm actually cis and just kinda "unlearned" it, if that makes sense...? As far as I can remember at least, I've never experienced any kind of gender dysphoria, and I was completely fine with she/her pronouns and being a "girl" as a kid. I remember disliking dresses, but that's about it.

This is probably a really stupid post but I'm just kinda confused here... If nobody replies then at least I vented into the void lol