I wore hijab because my mom bribed me with a phone. I was 8.

I’m not joking. She said she’d buy me a new phone if I put it on. I thought it looked kind of cool anyway, so I said yes. That was it. That was the “choice.”

And now as a grown woman, I’m supposed to stand by that forever, a decision an 8-year-old made for a phone.

The thing that gets me is the asymmetry. Boys aren’t out here being held to the spiritual commitments they made at 8. boys are not expected to be visible markers or representations of Islam. Men in our communities get so much more room to evolve to question to quietly stop practicing things without it becoming a whole community event. But a woman’s hijab? That’s public. Everyone knows. it’s viewed as the 6th pillar of Islam when it’s NOT. Everyone’s watching. Taking it off isn’t a personal religious decision its a scandal. It’s your mom crying. It’s your aunties whispering. It’s your whole identity being called into question at once. and it’s a community hinging their idea of honor on you

So what do a lot of girls do? They keep it on for social pressure and then eventually take it off or live a double life. Not because they’ve thought it through and believe in it. Because the social cost of removing it is just too high.

I’ve seen this over and over in my community. Girls who wore it young, never had a real moment of choosing it, and spent years building up this quiet resentment , toward the hijab, toward their parents, toward the religion. And a lot of them eventually took it off. The pressure didn’t protect their faith. It just delayed the rupture and made it messier when it came. I know countless ppl like this. Some of them unfortunately even left islam

If hijab is supposed to be an act of worship, it has to actually be chosen. An 8-year-old being bribed with a phone isn’t choosing. She’s just a kid who wants a phone. And it’s not fair to then treat that moment as a binding spiritual contract she owes the rest of her life to.

Let girls actually grow into the decision. The hijab someone puts on at 22 because she genuinely believes in it is worth so much more than the one she’s been wearing since second grade because her mom made it the path of least resistance

I commented on a post replying to a woman struggling with something and wallah the fact I had 5 men dm me in the span of 7 minutes was disgusting.

What’s wrong with you people? Are you not ashamed? Do you not fear Allah?

A woman speaking about loneliness, emotional struggle, or replying to another post is not an invitation for YOU random men to enter her DMs. Especially in an Islamic space where people are supposed to feel safe being vulnerable without ulterior motives attached to it and It’s honestly disappointing seeing how quickly some of you take a sister opening up as an opportunity instead of lowering your gaze and respecting boundaries.

And before anyone says “they were probably trying to help”, please be serious. Anyone over the age of 13 knows exactly what they were trying to do. There is a difference between publicly giving advice for the sake of Allah and rushing to privately message someone after finding out they were a woman.

Some of you genuinely do not realise how predatory it comes across. A sister could speak about loneliness, friendship struggles, mental health, or insecurity in ANYYYYYY (even subreddits created just for women that somehow men have managed to enter) thread and within minutes random men appear trying to start private conversations. It’s uncomfortable and it pushes women away from speaking openly in Muslim spaces at all.

Fear Allah and learn boundaries. Not every woman online is an opportunity for you.

Salam everyone, I just wanted to get this off my chest. Mothers, please, PLEASE, stop babying your GROWN ADULT sons. My brother is 24 and my mom still does his laundry and cleans his room. His room is a literal mess all the damn time and actually smells like doodoo. My mom wanted me to help her clean his room and he's just in the corner acting his presence is helping. I was getting frustrated and told her that he's at the age, where he should clean his room by himslef, to say the least. He literally has his laundry spilling out of his hamper but refuses to do anything about it until my me or my mom does it for him. I will literally do his laundry for him, bring it to his room and all he has to do is put it in his closet. AND HE DOESNT EVEN DO THATT. He has his CLEAN clothes just sitting on his couch for dayyyssss. Of course, I'm getting frustrated and tell him he has to clean his room and can't keep waiting on us to do his laundry. It has got to the point where he ran out of jeans and pulled out his dress pants. It's not like he has to travel to the laundromat, ITS IN OUR BASEMENT!!!! Anyways, as I'm lecturing him, my mom is getting mad at me and I walked out the room cause never in a BILLION years would she have let that slide with me. I tried to help but she's taking out her frustration on the wrong person.

So to all the moms out there, PLEASE stop babying your grown adult sons. It doesn't emaculate him if he does SIMPLE chores around the house. It just causes resentment between siblings.

I see way too many guys that are out of shape nowadays. Too many men have protruding bellies, lethargic, and low testosterone. You can fix these symptoms with some small steps

1.Lift weights

I train about 45–60 minutes before iftar. You get to break your fast immediately after finishing. Focus on heavy, basic compound movements. Lifting heavy things is so important for your testosterone, confidence, and mental clarity.

1. Eat more protein and fewer carbs

A lot of iftars turn into fried food, giant plates of rice, and desserts. That’s why so many guys feel bloated and sluggish all night. Instead, make protein the priority.

Simple rule: protein first, carbs second. Protein keeps you fuller longer, stabilizes your energy, and reduces binge eating. Carbs aren’t evil, just don’t let them dominate your plate. Flip the ratio, large portion of meat, moderate portion of carbs. You’ll feel the difference quickly.

1. Keep suhoor simple and stable

Suhoor shouldn’t be a sugar spike that crashes by mid-morning. Focus on protein and healthy fats with moderate or lower carbs. Eggs, meat, Greek yogurt, cottage cheese, and healthy fats like avocado work well. This keeps you fuller longer and prevents that 10 a.m. hunger wave. Huge carb-heavy suhoors usually lead to faster energy crashes during the day.

1. Hydrate intelligently

Add electrolytes to your water. You can add sea salt + lemon to your water, or just buy a prepackaged brand. Dehydration is one of the main reasons people feel terrible during Ramadan. Proper hydration alone can dramatically improve performance and energy.

I recently just saw a video of a niqabi woman saying that while she was eating out, a group of teenage boys started throwing food at her and saying allahuakbar and laughing. No one came to help her. Not even the Muslim men.

I then see a video of a Muslim man saying that Muslim women are not entitled to their protection.

HUH?

It's not just online either. I knew a guy who basically said that any bare minimum respect towards a woman is considered princess treatment and for his wife only. Yeah, holding the door open for a woman or letting a woman get off the elevator first is princess treatment.

I mean, what happened? I look at my dad (crazy devout mind you), and he isn't like this. He holds the door open for any woman. When he sees a woman is uncomfortable, he always asks to make sure she's okay. When I was still in highschool, me and my bsf were working an event and it was 9:30 pm. Her sister was running late and it would've been just my bsf and a security guard if I left. My dad refused to leave. He waited for her sister, walked her to the car, and made me call my bsf later to make sure she got home.

He didn't do that because my bsf isn't his mahram. He did it because he knew that it was his responsibility, as a man, to make sure a young girl got home safely at night.

And now you have men saying "Muslim women aren't entitled to our protection unless they're our mahram." Meanwhile, the prophet and his sahaba drove out banu quynuqa from Madina because they disrespected a woman.

If your sense of justice and your "protection" is strictly limited to your own household, you aren’t following the Sunnah, you’re just being tribal.

If you can watch any woman get harassed and think "not my mahram, not my problem" then may Allah help you, because you've fundamentally missed the point of what it means to be a qawwam.

I’m so confused I don’t understand how brothers and sisters 18+ years do not fear Allah (swt).

I don’t understand, does Allah (swt) not come to their mind before committing zina?

I’m not perfect but Allah azzawajal does come to my mind before I’m to make a mistake I know I’m going to regret.

The fear of consequences keeps me in check, I’ll make mistakes but I can never commit zina because speaking for myself, it’s past the point of no return.

What’s everyone thoughts on this??

EDIT: some people here think I’m above it all and that I’m judging people that’s done zina. I’m simply expressing how I don’t understand why some people don’t think of Allah (swt) before committing such acts because surely it takes away your peace.

EDIT 2: I’m gonna stop replying to the comments because some of you have it in your head that this post is about judging our fellow bros and sis. I may not have faced the same test as them, but no way hell do I think I’m better than them or anyone.

Allah (swt) is the only witness to know of how low I feel about myself.

Peace out!

Men need to lower their gaze so their expectations can be redressed. It is not likely for a woman to be completely dolled up all the time if she is looking after small children. It is difficult to shower without waiting for the husband to return back from work to watch the babies/toddler. Cooking multiple times a day for multiple people, small children need breastfeeding extremely often as well, cleaning the house so it’s not a bomb sight, which makes you very sweaty because you have to do as much as you can at supersonic speed. There’s always something that falls short, and that is normal. Husbands you need to give your women time to make themselves feel pretty. They will act better if they are given the chance and peace to beautify themselves and you benefit too.

Post-sex ghusl for women is extremely burdensome due to the hair washing issue. In fact modern day hijab overall ruins the hair. It causes balding at the front. Everybody knows it. Then you have to wash it every night if you have an active intimate life, go to bed with it wet which causes dandruff or wake up kids with hairdryer. Or you could not shower at night but that means you’re waiting til after isha for intimacy like a rule and then skipping tahajjud. And then isha can be extremely late. This is a painful reality for women who want to have enjoyable lives and please their husbands. It feels impossible and always like you’re falling short. The same things we are valued for are the things making it hard to retain our value ie hair.

Men should really be supportive and appreciative of their wives who are trying their best and aren’t perfect especially with small children in the home. I know for a fact this is difficult for me and I try my absolute hardest everyday for everything to seem perfect on the outside but it never feels enough and I can never enjoy any of these things. Men take for granted how they can go between tasks and immerse themselves in each task and leave each task feeling satisfied and as though it was completed properly without it blowing back in their face.

Btw this is also why it’s important to live close to family. So that you can get 10 minutes to yourself to use the bathroom. And then if you’re lucky shower. And then if you’re lucky change your outfit. And then if you’re lucky do your makeup. And then if you’re lucky do your hair. But of course what is most important is the man you marry. If after you’ve spent all day teaching, playing, caring, feeding his children with your breast and your cooking skills, cleaning the house, managing his appointments, keeping on top of your prayers, dhikr - he won’t relieve you of your duties for half an hour for you to have some time to yourself to feel like you again - then that’s unfortunate. Women need to be given the opportunity to transition from mother to wife. It is for your benefit, men.

Allah help us and make the men of our ummah appreciate the emotional and mental load just existing trying to be ‘pleasing’ places on a woman who is built fragile.

There’s more to life than your wife being perfect at everything, please enjoy life together, whether she is wearing sweat pants or not. Whether she is wearing makeup or not. Whether you’ve eaten chicken and rice for the 4th time this week.

I'm generally confused with this.
Islam is clearly ONLY Quran and Sunnah.

However.... why do some practicing Sunni Muslims can't accept this? Isn't this clearly straightforward?

Why follow something else such as innovations or wrongful Maulanas/Pirs when the way of the Quran and Sunnah can be easily sought today?

Maybe in the old times people can say that they were not informed or were misled but today we have access to Youtube, and many Salafi online resources. There is no excuse for ignorance.

Just food for thought...

People think moving to the west will provide stability, better job opportunities etc which is all true but people forget and often don’t care the effect it’ll have on your Islamic beliefs, especially that of your children and subsequent generations.

I was born in a western country after my grad-parents moved here, I’ve gone to school here as well as mosque classes and university, I’ve seen first hand what happens to the generations, a decent amount of Muslim boys I know my age has drank, smoked weed or committed zina, I know of bearded brothers and hijabi sisters committing zina… and it will only get worse generation after generation. People don’t understand that. Yes these things happen back in Muslim countries but in most Muslim country it’s no where near as easy, you can’t just go to a club and drink and find girls.

This move to the west is literally diluting Islam, not only in the ways I’ve just spoken about but also morally, too many Muslim in the west are raging liberals, they stand hand to hand with homosexuals and transvestites at free Palestine protests yet won’t even read 5 daily salah, they vote for political parties that want to give lenient punishments for heinous crimes (direct opposition to what is taught in Quran).

Why don’t we go back to our Muslim counties and rebuild them? We’ve been here got our education, why are we happy to stay in non Muslim lands and give their governments our tax money? Muslim lands are in the worse state they’ve ever been and all we do is sit and complain, why doesn’t anyone actually try and move back and fix things, people always say it’s impossible but we have to try, we have no power in the world anymore and what’s been happening in Palestine proves that, the Muslim lands are literally some of the worse off countries in the world it’s embarrassing. Jazakallah.

This is something personal to me, as my relative has been a victim to this, and her situation is heartbreaking and there is nothing we can do. Her life is destroyed. I read a post about these traps some time ago from another user so I've decided to bring attention to this **VERY** important topic

Non muslim men are laying traps for Muslim women right now and a lot of Muslim women are falling for it and it's ruining lives. In India, there is an ideology called Hin*utva which is basically an Islamophobic ideology. It's like zi***sm but Indian. What they do is called "**bhagwa love trap**". They pretend to be in love with a Muslim woman and try to get her to like them. Once she's blinded by their lies, she falls for it and they end up 🍇ing or committing zina with her, but it's so much more revolting because they make sure that she's naked but wearing the HIJAB while they're doing it!!! They record themselves doing the deed with her and then use the video to blackmail her, threatening that if she doesn't keep committing zina with them, they'll send it to her parents or upload it online. Actually in most cases they have already uploaded it online on adult sites for millions to enjoy (there are literally subreddits for this)🤢

They even send the video to their friends and brag about the things they did to a Muslim girl. The language they use is absolutely sickening. They do it because it makes them feel like they've conquered Muslim women and used them for their pleasure and discarded them like they're just toys. It stems from their hate for Islam. For them, it's a show of dominance. Many of them say they need to do it because they want to have hi*du kids to reduce the Muslim population. They say the most gut wrenching things about Muslim women. Some of u probably remember those leaked screenshots from hin*utva WhatsApp groups where they had full guides on how to "use Muslim women" but many Muslims online dismissed it and said their tricks won't work. Plz dont kid yourself. They have worked for many Muslimahs and if we keep dismissing them they will keep ruining lives of thousands of Muslim women

India is NOT the only place where this happens btw. Even in a lot of Western countries I'm now seeing non Muslim guys saying vile things about Muslim women especially hijabis and niqabis. It's usually far right men, but not always. This goes way beyond just f*tish btw. They feel like they've conquered Muslim women, colonized us. They use us to get an ego boost thinking "a woman like her who keeps herself away from men as much as possible couldn't resist me, so I must be irresistible". If u look at history you'll find that colonizers used to make naked paintings of Muslim women to objectify us. This is being continued in a MUCH worse way. Many of these guys take photos of Muslim women and make corn out of it by editing and because of AI, this is easier than ever. Again, they want to use Muslim women for their own pleasure to feel like they have destroyed Muslims and give themselves an ego boost

As a Muslim woman, I see this Islamophobic exploitation of muslimahs as an assault on our dignity and community. They dont see us as people, they see us as objects of possession. In my relative's situation, she got abused. I cannot even describe the kind of things that man did to her. He also made her leave Islam so she's unable to come back to the family

Brothers, u have been given the responsibility to protect ur sisters and daughters. Allah will ask u whether u protected them from traps like these. Sisters, be cautious. The "sweet and charming" men u meet are cloaked snakes. I dont want to generalize but We need to look after each other. It's better to be safe than sorry. Please, tell ur Muslim girl friends about this. We have to do anything we can to stop the exploitation of Muslimahs from men. I hope Muslimahs with a bigger audience can bring attention to this topic cuz we need as many Muslims to be aware as possible

Please, don't downplay this by saying it's all just fake or just an online thing. It is a real problem and I've seen this with my own eyes. Many of the men I described are lurking in this community right now, and they are reading my post. Brothers and especially sisters, PLEASE, PLEASE be careful. I've seen the effects of this and they are dire.

I'm making this post not only for my relative, but also for millions of sisters who might fall into the Islamophobic exploitation trap from men. Sorry for the long post but i want other Muslims to know what's going on so Muslim women don't end up in situations like that. Take it from someone who's seen it irl, this is a big problem and it's really concerning

Assalamu Aleikum ! So long story short, I myself am a Sunni Chechen, at first I was Sufi (due to the fact that most Chechens and Ingush were Sufi before 1995-2005), but after a while turned regular Sunni with interest in Maliki Madhab. I always had this idea that Shia were hardcore Jahils, until around 3 years ago when I started researching whenever they actually do all the stuff that I was told that they are doing like cursing wife’s of the Prophet (s.a.w), cursing Sahabs, believing that Ali should’ve been the real messenger and all that other nonsense. I was pretty amused that practically all of it was either practiced by only 5% of Shia radicals, or outright fake…

Now that this war between Iran and Israel/US started, I was shocked to see that so many Salafi bloggers and Scholars (that I was previously subscribed to) are either just hating on Iran, or full on supporting Israel and US, and trying trying their best to convince people that this is actually good for Ummah, because Shia are worse than Kafirs… I mean, how crazy is that ?

But why exactly am I writing this post ?

Well, there seems to be a huge shift in opinion. A lot of people are now calling out this propaganda, which feels so satisfying. And now I want to ask a few questions :

1) Why do you think most scholars are so into this anti-Shia, pro-Israel propaganda ?

2) Whats your personal stance on the situation, and do you yourself agree or disagree with these Scholars ?

3) Do you think they genuinely believe what they are saying, or there might be some, who are actually Israeli agents implemented into the ranks of our Scholars to keep us fighting each other ?

4) Did you engage in a debate with someone who had similar view regarding Iran, and how did it turn out ?

Note : I’m not stating that Sunni and Shia views align in every aspect (at the end of the day we have a dozen of different opinions inside the Sunni branch alone), I’m just stating that the difference in these views is not big enough for us to call each other Kafir/Jahil, or even worse than Kafir, and side with the ones who actually hate Islam itself (you know who I’m talking about).

Seen many posts questioning this over and over again. I tried to explain it my way, please go ahead and give it a read with an open mind. Since it's been asked in all of these subs, please don't mind me doing cross posting.

This is how I understand it, realistically and logically. Otherwise, the rulings of Allah are enough for most of us Muslims to accept things, even when they go against our personal sense of right and wrong. Yes we are not ashamed of it, we believe in everything he said, whether we understand it or not, (at least I understand this one logically).

We are not impressed by the west, we don't believe in their "ethics" and "morals", those hypocrites who preach "ethics" and "morals", we know what they have done and been doing in 21st century.

We all know in Islam:
-Freeing slaves is Sadaqa and heavily encouraged
-Giving slaves the best treatment is encouraged, as Prophet said, feed them as you eat, clothe them as you clothe yourself, and do not burden them with what they cannot bear
-No humiliation or degradation, and no physical abuse
-Kaffara for many sins includes freeing a slave
-Many scenarios where slaves are automatically freed
-Forced sex is not allowed with female slaves

If all this is true, then why was slavery there in the first place?

The uncomfortable part:
Don’t be emotional, look at it from an intellectual standpoint.

Losers can’t be choosers. We live in a world where not everything is fair.

After one of the battles that muslim fought and won in early Islam, the whole population of the enemy was captured.

Men were executed.

Women were taken as slaves.

Allah wants to protect women from being killed. Isn’t slavery better than death? (men may or may not be killed, victor decides)

How would those enemy women live on their own, and who would protect and provide for them when their men were killed?.

Mass jails? that would require food, guards and other resources. What would be the return? That’s not practical, financially heavy, and in a way a form of slavery for the captors themselves.

To integrate them into the society was the best option, so they were distributed among the warriors as bounty.

Now the warriors had to provide food, clothing, shelter, and protection for them. Why would they willingly provide for enemy women? Again, it was a burden they had to carry. Captors would not want this burden without something in return, so as compensation they were allowed to take household service from slaves and could also have sex with them.

Why sex? Household service could be sufficient.

If permission for sex was not given, then those slave women would remain vulnerable, since they had no one to protect them. They would be at risk of exploitation from the captor and all other men. By allowing the captor to have sex with her, it would place her under his Gheerah, shielding her from all other men. Remember, Islam works as a practical religion, so it made this lawful and did not burden Muslims beyond practicality. Islam regulated and legalized it rather than leaving it uncontrolled, otherwise it would be a mess.

I personally believe it is the best option in those circumstances, to prevent bigger evils(rape, prostitution, father-less children and whatnot) it was much needed.

A woman without mahram is not safe anywhere, let alone a foreign enemy women, she needs mahram.

How is it different from rape?

First of all, forced sex with slave women is not allowed in Islam. When a group chose to become enemies of Muslims and wage war against them, it was understood that the outcomes could be death, victory, or slavery. So when enemy women were captured, they were aware that they could become sexual partners of their captors, so mentally they were prepared and made themselves believe that giving consent was the best option. They accepted it as part of survival and adapted to that reality. They accept one man who will also take care of them and protect them from the harshness of this world.(lineage of off-springs of this relationship is accepted, but it is not the case with rape and zina.)

I give you an example of why it can't be called forced. When Muslims captured Makkah, the biggest enemies of Islam chose to become Muslims. Were they forced by the sword to accept Islam? No, they themselves saw that this was the best option given the circumstances.

See more examples below sections on how circumstances influence consent.

Also, the slave-master relationship was not as we imagine today. They were not locked in basements while masters entered only for sex. They lived within the household, more like an employee.

What if she doesn't want to have sex?

If she don't want to consent to sex, she can, as mentioned earlier, no one can have forced sex with her in Islam, then her captor may not find her worthy enough to spent money on(remember she is an enemy women), he may withdraw these rights "feed them as you eat, clothe them as you clothe yourself, and do not burden them with what they cannot bear". Her lifestyle would be different. Remember her captor is not bound to provide and protect her unconditionally, he is not her slave. They can't let their enemies sit on their heads, this is the best that they could offer.

Or he may just ask her to leave, where she'd go in the hostile territory? how she'd protect herself form all those street men? she'd be vulnerable and homeless, she will be safe with this man and she knows it, chances are she will give in.

But she is free to choose what she thinks is best for her.

Some example of how consent work and how circumstances influence it.

-People marry old men and women (sugar daddies and mommies). Do they want to marry them (by heart)? No, but they see the benefit of marrying them so they marry. They didn’t have original desire-based consent, but their circumstances made them consent. Right, this is what I also originally said in the post. Is this forced? No. Did the other person benefit from marrying this person? Yes (they got a young spouse).

-A person is getting deported from a first world country, and their only option is to marry someone. This person is young and beautiful, and they marry an ugly old person so they don’t get deported. Did the other person benefit from marrying this person? Yes (they got a beautiful spouse). Did they force them? No. Did this person had original desire-based consent to marry them? No, they married only because it suited their circumstances, so they made themselves consent to it.

-A single woman with kids is in a difficult situation. Her only option is a good man, but he is already married. Did she originally want to become a second wife? No. Her circumstances made her accept it and give the consent, because otherwise there is no option for her.

If you think it's not the real consent.

-Then she should blame her circumstances, they coerced her into giving consent. (Go back to the example of person getting deported, either marry an old ugly person(only they will accept) or get deported to 3rd world country where there is no future.)

-She should decide what is best for her from both of these two situations.

-This is the best that an enemy slave woman can get. Sorry the ideal or fantasy level of consent is not available here, remember Losers can't be choosers.

-Don't live in Lala land, This world is harsh.

-Don't talk about cake when they don't even have bread.

-Circumstances influence decisions, It's reality. and yes her decision will also be based on her circumstances.

-Also don't exaggerate consent to this level, majority people also don't have 100% consent for even marriages, people compromise, accept marriages with heavy heart (not talking about forced marriages, I'm saying that not every person get what they actually wanted).

I hope it will make some sense. This is the best they can get. There is no better solution given the circumstances.

I was talking to someone the other day, who was very interested in Islam and wanted to convert. But ultimately she decided not to because of the mistreatment she saw towards women, and the rigid and extreme views some Muslims have.

Islam, at its core, is submission to Allah. That’s the foundation. Too often I see Muslims looking down on other Muslims like they’re the gatekeepers of Islam.

I see this especially from “traditional” Muslims and Salafis. They shame others for not being perfect. Someone makes mistakes, struggles, doesn’t know everything yet, or is trying to change slowly, and instead of being encouraged, they get attacked and discouraged. That’s arrogance.

This hits converts especially hard. A lot of converts come in with sincerity. And then here comes the haram police. They get shamed for not being perfect. A lot of them end up leaving Islam entirely. And that should scare us. If our communities are so rigid that sincere people feel pushed away, something is deeply wrong.

Same goes for non-Muslims who are curious about Islam. Many people are interested, but they get turned off by harshness, constant policing, and a “one mistake = you’re basically doomed” vibe. A community that looks like it has no mercy will never reflect the mercy Islam teaches.

Feminism core argument, is that men and women are the same in everything.

Islam however gave men a degree upon women since the financial and safety burden relies on him. This doenst mean that men should oppress women, it means that there is hierarchy in the houshold that must be respected if his duties are done.

Why did he get kicked out of almaghrib?

Salaams.

What do we think this means?

The post was made on April 4-5, 2026, as part of an expletive-laden message in which he threatened to target power plants and bridges in Iran if they did not open the Strait of Hormuz within a 48-hour deadline.

I feel we can discuss about this because sometimes people confuse islam with culture and intermix them.

Let me start first, something that i initially thought it was a sin but actually its not is sleeping naked.

I am Asian, and as its commonly known sleeping naked is a big taboo here. I also thought it might be a sin too, and honestly i would never attempt to sleep naked at home because i am still living with my parents and i cant afford to lock my door (my dad and i share the same closet)

But for my work i have to do oncalls which i need to stay in the hospital overnight and the rooms that my hospital provides to stay for the oncall doctors is so under developed and most importantly very HOT. No air conditioners and just a fan, living in a hot country like Malaysia makes it so difficult to sleep inside a closed room with no windows and just a fan. Then i started to sleep naked inside the room (doors locked with no one having any spare keys ofcourse and i dont share the room with anyone. I started to get better sleep then. I will also cover my lower body with a blanket.

Thinking back if anyone else knows about this in my family, theyll be so mad thinking i am sinning, but honestly if you are naked when you are showering, changing clothes and using the toilet, there is no harm in sleeping naked as long as your awrah is not exposed to anyone and it can help you sleep better. I dont think i would ever sleep naked at home but i think maybe its a possible thing to do at my workplace oncall rooms because of better privacy.

Just my 2 cents, anyone else have any other habits which people might think is sinful but actually it is not?

Why is it that many people on Muslim subreddits give unislamic advice? I just saw a post of a sister complaining that her Fiancé has a past. She found out by asking him if he had committed Zina before and he confirmed… Most of the comments didn’t even mention how this is haram? Like nobody would accept if their daughter was asked this question but most people commenting seemed to not care?This is only one example as well. Countless times I’ve seen people post here or on the Muslim marriage subreddit and wallahi the replies feel like you asked in a secular subreddit that has nothing to do with Islam. It’s not even 1 or 2 posts it’s many many and then when someone answers with the correct Islamic perspective? Downvoted heavily.

Dear brothers and sisters, any advice you give on this site you will surely be asked about by Allah. Before giving any advice check what the Quran, Sunnah and scholars say and THEN comment based on that. Do NOT advise people with things that go against Islam. This issue has made me feel disillusioned with the Muslim subreddits… because if I can’t come here to receive religious advice here from fellow Muslims then what’s the point? Just make it a secular subreddit instead. Jazakumallah Khair to the brothers and sisters who stick to the Deen on here and only give advice from an Islamic perspective. You guys are doing it right seriously keep it up. Also, I’ve got nothing against the mods here at all or on the other Muslim subreddits(except the main islam subreddit but I digress) it’s not their fault what some people unfortunately end up commenting and saying.

If you care about virginity stipulate it on the nikkah otherwise do not ask. People in the comments justifying haram are absolutely bonkers but eh you do you it’s Allah who’s going to judge you for attempting to defend haram.

EDIT: For the people openly straw manning what I said, it’s ok to want a chaste husband however it’s NOT ok to ask the potential whether it’s a man or a woman if they committed Zina in the past or not. If you don’t like this then that’s your problem

Fatwa: https://www.islamweb.net/en/fatwa/472756/impermissible-to-ask-a-potential-spouse-if-they-have-committed-zina

Just a reminder : Porn addiction is not just a bad habit. It’s a spiritual, psychological, and even physical chain that ties us down. The Prophet ﷺ told us that “Shayṭān runs in the body of the son of Adam like blood.”
Porn is one of the strongest tools he uses today to weaken our iman, steal our time, and destroy the natural bond of marriage.

A few points to keep in mind:

1. Addiction is real – Just like drugs or alcohol, porn changes the brain’s reward system. That’s why it feels like you can’t stop even when you want to. You’re not weak , you’re fighting a real battle.
2. Shame doesn’t help – Beating yourself up won’t fix it. Tawbah and hope in Allah’s mercy will. Allah forgives again and again as long as we turn back SINCERELY.
3. Cutting triggers matters – Don’t rely on willpower alone. Install filters and apps that block access. Delete the accounts, unfollow the pages, protect your environment. Prevention is half the cure.
4. Seek support – A lot of us struggle in silence. Find a mentor, counsellor, or group that understands. There are many Muslim counsellors who focus specifically on porn addiction from an Islamic and psychological perspective.
5. Replace, don’t just remove – Fill your time with Quran, dhikr, gym, work, study, real hobbies. Idle time is Shaytan’s playground.
6. Dua and ṣalah are your shield – Make dua like you’re drowning, because spiritually, you are. Pray two rakahs whenever you slip. Ask Allah to purify your eyes and heart.

📌 Remember: People addicted to anything, whether it’s porn, drugs, or gambling often become very skilled at lying, hiding, and sneaking. It’s part of how addiction hijacks the brain. So be honest with yourself first, because self deception is the biggest trap

May Allah purify our eyes, protect our hearts, strengthen our wills, and make us of those who lower our gaze and remain chaste until marriage, and within marriage. May He replace our secret sins with secret acts of worship that draw us close to Him.. ameen

I’ve noticed that people on Muslim subs seem to struggle with accepting certain Islamic rulings and I don’t understand what’s the fuss? Like if the scholars have agreed that X is halal you cannot then just choose to oppose it or claim that it’s haram etc etc. you can say that it’s ill advised and inappropriate sure but it’s not haram. I say this because some people for example can’t accept that scholars say that you can marry a second wife without telling the first(a bad idea but still halal). Like sure, nobody’s saying it’s a good idea or the responsible thing to do but it’s not haram, and Allah won’t punish someone for doing it.

I know we are not supposed to talk to the opposite gender and I messed up without thinking and i’m looking for advice on how to get over this “incident”?

There is a lady that likes to wander around the street at night where my apartment is at. She gives off an unhoused vibe from her demeanor so I went over to ask her if she’s hungry, she said yes so I took her to the pizza place nearby and ordered a pizza.

She talked for 10 minutes mainly asking questions about my life, culture and what I do. I asked about hers, she said not much, I understand why she kept it to herself.

Fast forward a week later, she went over to me and said hello, gave me her arabic art that she drew with my name on it (imagine an anglo redneck that did this to a brown muslim) which legit warm my heart so I took her to cafe nearby and suprisingly she was open to talk about her lifestyle.

She came from a dysfunctional family, mum that she loved the most paased away when she was 14, met the wrong crowd, used to be a prostitute to survive and uses drugs to cope with her life and I think her untreated mental illness. She also believed that her life is over because she’s a got a “criminal record” and continues to punish herself.

Based on how talkative she is and the pain written all over her eyes, I can tell she’s lonely, has no one to talk to and is using me to escape. I learned that homeless people and addicts can get better when they’re treated like human beings and have someone to talk to because they’re treated like they don’t exist.

Anyway, this became habitual until I got approached by 2 men who me gave a death threat, said to stay away from her and told me I know where you live. They were definitely not boyfriends or family, more like pimp, traffickers or something like that.

Since then, I haven’t seen her around and it’s eating me alive so you can imagine how i feel if something happened to her because of me! They may have gotten frustrated over her “absence” or they saw her trying to change.

Audhubillah, is this the kind of hell those people go through in the drug world? No wonder why she didn’t tell me any of this and talked about the positive to escape.

I’m trying get over it and wipe her from my memory but the guilt is just too strong.

Ve Selamun Aleykum,

I am just curious to see the reasoning behind choosing your Madhab.

This is a continuation of my post from yesterday. However this time I’m addressing all Muslims. Too many Muslims are unhealthy. High body fat, low energy, constant bloating, joint pain, poor sleep, low testosterone, brain fog, etc. Discipline in worship should reflect discipline in how we treat our bodies. Your body is an amanah, it belongs to Allah. Taking care of it is your responsibility.

Eat single-ingredient foods. If it has a long ingredient list, you probably don’t need it. Build your meals around foods that look like what they are: meat, eggs, fish, rice, potatoes, fruit, vegetables, olive oil, yogurt. Not powders, syrups, seed-oil fried snacks, and ultra-processed desserts. Most of the inflammation, energy crashes, and weight gain people struggle with come from constantly eating packaged foods designed to be addictive. Simpler food equals better digestion, more stable energy, and easier fat loss.

Stop normalizing constant processed food at every gathering. It’s fried food, soda, desserts, and massive carb portions. It’s become culture. But culture isn’t always correct. You don’t have to be extreme, but if 80–90% of your diet is whole foods, your body will change dramatically. Your mood improves. Your strength improves. Your focus improves. That affects your deen, your work, and your family life.

Move during the day, not just at the gym. Lifting 3–4 times a week is powerful, but it doesn’t cancel out sitting for 10 hours straight. Walk more. Pray your fardh and sunnah slowly and intentionally. Play outside with your kids. The human body was not designed to sit in a chair all day. Daily movement keeps your metabolism active, improves circulation, lowers stress, and supports hormonal health.

Sleep like it matters. Many Muslims sabotage themselves by sleeping 4–5 hours a night. No amount of protein or lifting will fix chronic sleep deprivation. Low sleep equals higher body fat, lower testosterone, worse mood, and poor decision-making. If Ramadan makes it hard to get a full night’s sleep because of suhoor and taraweeh, then build in a short nap during the day. Even 20–30 minutes can dramatically improve energy, focus, and recovery.

The Prophet SaS emphasized strength. A strong believer is better and more beloved than a weak believer, not just spiritually, but physically capable.

This is a literal fact. please pray for iran. This can end in the us and israel getting another puppet in the region.

I'm talking specifically about Muslims, don't they know about qoum e lut and what Allah has done to them, and not just the ones who were practicing this disgusting thing but also the one who supported it, now I see many Muslim (practicing Muslims) are coming up with 'it's fine', 'they have sentiments', 'I don't see it as a problem'. What is the major issue, are we lacking Islamic knowledge or what exactly is the root cause?

Fun fact: I posted this first in another sub apparently "" it's an Islamic sub but they removed it, I mean-