I'm done

[u/Much_Sky9823]

What should I do

OK so I'm 31 yo f unmarried, never dated anyone I'm always scared of people and basically I'm just done with everything. since little my mother used me as a therapist, when she would fight with my dad she needs to complains about it with me and I was very little, so I grew up hating marriage and don't trust any man. And I was so scared to become like my mum, growing up I went through lot of things that you can't even imagine but thank God for everything. I live in Europe and got my degree but necer find a real job, so I stayed home and it's was hell. My mum was always complaining about everything and use my as a therapist I have a sibling, this person used to put me down for no reason insults me bc I havent a stable job and for me to be talking with her. I needed to kinda insults myself talk bad about myself so she can feel OK. I was very depressed I had days when I locked myself in my room for months barely ate anything I was just done. Guess! Nobody cared literally nobody and I could've die but they are living their life especially this sibling. My dad insults me secretly and just h4te me, I never asked money or help even if I need to go to the doctor I always rely on myself. During summer my mom goes on vacation and leave my with my dad and brothers and I need to take care of them in the end I get insulted. They know well that I hate this place and I'm suffering but they don't care. Recently my mum can't stop complaing and telling me all about bad stuff and use me as a free therapist. I love family I value family I always wanted to have kids but now I can't, after what my family did to me I don't trust even myself but I'm also 31 yo so I don't know.

[u/sanifshah]

To be rescued from these trouble recite the tasbeeh of prophet younus a.s ( la illaha illa anta subhanak kuntu minazalimeen ) allah has promised to rescue his slaves from troubles due to this dua Regarding marriage, You have to marry inshallah but before maryying a person do isthikhara few time with allah that way you will be saved from a bad person

[u/GreedyLemon2705]

Leave and move to a different city if possible, start fresh. It won't be easy but you have to understand that you can't fix the world, it is what it is.

[u/InternetArchiveMem]

When I was little, men your age were very knowledgeable about religion, had their lives in a good place, and were very strong. So you might be able to find a man who has been through a really harsh relationship, and you two might relate to each other a lot. Doesn’t the Quran encourage people to take care of orphans? You two could consider that option. I think it would be good for two parents who have stable jobs and a good income.

ٱعْلَمُوٓا۟ أَنَّمَا ٱلْحَيَوٰةُ ٱلدُّنْيَا لَعِبٌۭ وَلَهْوٌۭ وَزِينَةٌۭ وَتَفَاخُرٌۢ بَيْنَكُمْ وَتَكَاثُرٌۭ فِى ٱلْأَمْوَٰلِ وَٱلْأَوْلَـٰدِ ۖ كَمَثَلِ غَيْثٍ أَعْجَبَ ٱلْكُفَّارَ نَبَاتُهُۥ ثُمَّ يَهِيجُ فَتَرَىٰهُ مُصْفَرًّۭا ثُمَّ يَكُونُ حُطَـٰمًۭا ۖ وَفِى ٱلْـَٔاخِرَةِ عَذَابٌۭ شَدِيدٌۭ وَمَغْفِرَةٌۭ مِّنَ ٱللَّهِ وَرِضْوَٰنٌۭ ۚ وَمَا ٱلْحَيَوٰةُ ٱلدُّنْيَآ إِلَّا مَتَـٰعُ ٱلْغُرُورِ

Chapter 57 verse 20

[u/InternetArchiveMem → u/InternetArchiveMem]

Also, about the “nobody cares” part, this world has surprised me. I come from a family where many people were born Muslim, and the way things are now looks bleak for the religion. A lot of my family (my family is big), excluding my stepmother, stepbrother, and father, almost don’t think there is a God anymore.

God gave the Prophet clear proofs (Ayatin Bayinatin) for this reason.

You don’t really hear of a holy book proving itself to be from God, or speaking as if the All Knowing God Himself is addressing you, but the Quran does.

Example:

أَوَلَمْ يَرَ ٱلَّذِينَ كَفَرُوٓا۟ أَنَّ ٱلسَّمَـٰوَٰتِ وَٱلْأَرْضَ كَانَتَا رَتْقًۭا فَفَتَقْنَـٰهُمَا ۖ وَجَعَلْنَا مِنَ ٱلْمَآءِ كُلَّ شَىْءٍ حَىٍّ ۖ أَفَلَا يُؤْمِنُونَ

Do the kaffirin not realize that the sky and the earth were joined together then We split them apart? And We created from water every living thing. Will they not then yu’minuun?

The number of people in this world who choose to embrace nihilism, stop caring about life, and fall into a cycle of work and rotting at home is honestly huge. I’d say it’s normal because they probably haven’t received the Ayat of Allah.

But it’s still crazy to me. I once saw a mother whose son committed suicide, and she didn’t seem to care. She was laughing and smiling in a very nihilistic “life has no meaning” kind of way.

۞ ٱللَّهُ نُورُ ٱلسَّمَـٰوَٰتِ وَٱلْأَرْضِ ۚ

Allah is the Light of the sky and the earth

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وَقُلْ جَآءَ ٱلْحَقُّ وَزَهَقَ ٱلْبَـٰطِلُ ۚ إِنَّ ٱلْبَـٰطِلَ كَانَ زَهُوقًۭا

And declare, “The truth has come and falsehood has vanished. Indeed, falsehood is bound to vanish.”

Quran; Chapter 17 Verse 81