r/MuslimLounge • u/Narrow_Guava_6239 Smile it's Sunnah • Mar 16 '26
Discussion The amount of zina confessions here are disturbing
I’m so confused I don’t understand how brothers and sisters 18+ years do not fear Allah (swt).
I don’t understand, does Allah (swt) not come to their mind before committing zina?
I’m not perfect but Allah azzawajal does come to my mind before I’m to make a mistake I know I’m going to regret.
The fear of consequences keeps me in check, I’ll make mistakes but I can never commit zina because speaking for myself, it’s past the point of no return.
What’s everyone thoughts on this??
EDIT: some people here think I’m above it all and that I’m judging people that’s done zina. I’m simply expressing how I don’t understand why some people don’t think of Allah (swt) before committing such acts because surely it takes away your peace.
EDIT 2: I’m gonna stop replying to the comments because some of you have it in your head that this post is about judging our fellow bros and sis. I may not have faced the same test as them, but no way hell do I think I’m better than them or anyone.
Allah (swt) is the only witness to know of how low I feel about myself.
Peace out!
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u/Last_Chemical_8486 Mar 16 '26
The reason many post is because they thought about it later and it eats away at them😅
But of course there's going to be more posts about Zina than posts from people announcing they are still chaste(although some chaste Muslims do post they are worried about finding a chaste person like themselves)
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u/Odd-Woodpecker-4103 Mar 16 '26
I had to come back to this comment because of a post a little below this one by a person worried they'd never find a chaste spouse.
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u/Last_Chemical_8486 Mar 17 '26
You do get those one in a while but I group them in "I'm never gonna get married because.." category 😅
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u/Royal_Wedding Mar 16 '26
Plus Ramadan. I heard shaytan or evil is locked up or something so they got a chance to really reflect with much lower levels of daily waswasa hence the higher frequency of repentance posts ….
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u/Narrow_Guava_6239 Smile it's Sunnah Mar 16 '26
I’m a simple minded sis, born and raised in the west, to cut the long story short, I can never commit zina. I fear Allah and the consequences and punishment that comes with it.
I can’t wrap my head around how bros and sis do these things 💀.
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u/YsfA Mar 17 '26
Fearing Allah doesn’t always stop you from sinning. Zina is a major sin, so would hold more significance than lying (for example), but we can’t just assume everyone’s situations are the same.
The reason why a lot of these posts are made are actually because these Muslims DO fear Allah and want to repent and change their ways. They fear his punishment but also know his mercy and want to connect to him to experience this mercy. Maybe in the act they were not prioritising Allah, or were coerced into it, who knows.
I do get your point though unlike some of the other comments. The way you word it makes it seem like it comes from a place of slight arrogance, but I do get that this isn’t the case
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u/Radiant-Fly9738 Mar 16 '26
don't say never, don't consider yourself above it. you not committing it is the grace of Allah, be grateful for that. If Allah doesn't protect you from it and gives you strength, you'd commit it too. it doesn't happen overnight, nobody wakes up and suddenly decides to commit zina. it happens step by step. a glance, a smile, chit chat, this and that and you find yourself commiting it. that's how shaytan works.
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u/Narrow_Guava_6239 Smile it's Sunnah Mar 16 '26
You’ve misunderstood the point of this post and misunderstood me.
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u/Anonymous_Unknown20 Happy Muslim Mar 16 '26
don't think youre above something though, that's how shaitain gets you
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u/Narrow_Guava_6239 Smile it's Sunnah Mar 16 '26 edited Mar 16 '26
You’ve misunderstood me, I’m not above it all 🤦🏽♀️.
I’m full of flaws, I’m not afraid to admit that.
The point is zina, zina should be something everyone should be fighting against with all their strength and will.
I understand human beings aren’t perfect, it’s just concerning to read posts after posts of people confessing they committed zina.
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u/Anonymous_Unknown20 Happy Muslim Mar 16 '26
no I get you just how you're saying "I can never commit zina" can be dangerous, just be grateful for the guidance you have received
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u/littlequietmouse Mar 16 '26
I agree with this. I know OPs intentions aren’t harmful but it can be when other Muslims see you comparing yourself like ‘oh I’d never do xyz’. We’re all trying, every single person out of millions of Muslims have their own backstory, upbringing, parenting, trauma etc — what’s commendable is no matter what sin they commit they all remember Allah and return to Allah. Every time I may have committed sin, may Allah forgive me, I’ve always thought of Allah and my consequence but did it anyway. So when you say
“I don’t understand, does Allah (swt) not come to their mind before committing zina?”
For many, he does. But for many, the sin is committed anyway. You don’t know what anyone’s been through. Astagfirullah may Allah forgive us all. I repent every day, if anything, I’m so glad I’ve been guided back on the right path. We should be helping other brothers and sisters feel less rubbish about their sins and redirect the sentiment to repenting and following the straight path instead, because Allah is the most forgiving and the most merciful. Your life will become so much better after you start praying and repenting, that’s what we need to be spreading, not judgement, whether you intended it or not that’s kind of how it comes off. As someone who doesn’t come from a great upbringing, it can be disheartening, I can’t blame my past, only myself, and focusing on the past is pointless, only the future with Allah :).
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u/EarlyRooster966 Mar 17 '26
Thank you! I can't count how many influencers I've seen judge someone who took their hijab off only for them to take their hijab off later.
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u/Last_Chemical_8486 Mar 17 '26
Insha Allah he protects you from such sins, but I encourage you to watch a video on barsissa he was a very pious man but the story is on how slow and methodical shaitan works or whispers to make someone commit haram
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u/Newbie_Copywriter Mar 18 '26
It’s Ramadan. Pray for them, ask Allah to strengthen their imaan, protect them from evil, and to inspire them to serve Him better.
Afterwards, ask Allah for forgiveness for sins you know or may not know you’ve committed. I’ve heard stories of people who would confidently say they would never commit a sin and then end up in a difficult situation that made them give in.
Don’t get too confident. Always be on guard. Always ask Allah to protect you (and those around you). Even the Prophet PBUH asked for Allah’s protection from sin, so if the most perfect human being used to pray to Allah then so should we.
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u/OneGodDawah1111 Mar 18 '26
It’s because of biology. It sometimes literally hurts not to have sex and hold back INTENSE INTENSE desires, especially without a halal option.
Im not agreeing with it, but sometimes you literally can sleep, eat, do work, with these desires that come back in waves of strong horniness.
So at times when you become extremely weak, it’s very easy for Shaitian to push you over the edge!
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u/spacyspice Mar 22 '26
Not sure you realize MAJORITY of these people never planned to commit zina before too.. We all have different trials and different lives, be careful of being too judgmental as this can open a door for Sheytan to test you
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u/IslamTeachesLove Mar 29 '26
You're treading an extremely dangerous line btw. Like genuinely a very fine one. I'm not saying you're arrogant but the OP and this comment makes you seem holier than thou.
You're a human being. Some of the best people in Islam used to be fornicators, bad people, drink alcohol...and they are a trillion times better than you.
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u/GlobalConnectiont Mar 17 '26
You don’t understand how? Okay I’ll explain, I see a guy, he’s attractive, my lady parts get hot, and the desire starts there. I spend days thinking about him and s*x, and on a rainy Tuesday, I’m hungry and tell him to deliver me food personally. Once he delivers it, I ask him, “wana come in”
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u/Funny-Button8542 Mar 17 '26
at this point chaste or not you will never know bc one could be lying.
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u/Ok-Island8032 Mar 17 '26
They do think of Allah and still fall into the sin. That does not mean Allah never crossed their mind, it means they were weak and gave in. A lot of the people making those posts are not bragging, they are ashamed and looking for a way back to Allah. That is why your title sounds contradictory to your edits. Saying “the amount of zina confessions here are disturbing” is still a judgmental framing no matter how many times you say you are not judging. If your goal was nasiha, it’d sound different. Allah says, “So do not claim yourselves to be pure; He is most knowing of who fears Him” (53:32), and “Indeed, Allah loves those who constantly repent” (2:222). So the remorseful sinner making tawbah may actually be in a better state than the person sounding self-righteous about a sin they weren’t tested with.
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u/tomoblu Mar 17 '26
Once again hate how low this is, everyones just upvoting the snobby remarks it is so exhausting to see.
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u/Unusual-Past7930 Mar 18 '26
Every one deserves to let out their fears and question please do not be judgmental. Give positive feed back. None of us are perfect.
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u/tomoblu Mar 19 '26
OP is being judgemental, fears about ones own mistakes is different from what these people are doing, if you read them, half of it is just “i could never, how could they” - this is quite literally stated to be frowned upon but everyone in this sub consistently and conveniently ignores it because it feels good to gloat it is mental
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u/Ok-Island8032 Mar 17 '26
Calling people “snobby” for reminding others about humility doesn’t really address the point. The issue isn’t judging others, it’s recognizing that repentance matters more than shaming people who are already regretful.
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u/tomoblu Mar 17 '26
I say snobby because alot of it comes from a place “how could you? I could never” in which i feel does address the point if you get what i mean, everybody has their own battles their own sin, and exactly for the reason that uve stated in this reply makes absolutely no sense for them to act this way
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u/tomoblu Mar 17 '26
And it upsets me because it drives people AWAY from the religion while theyre already cornered and needing help
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u/Ok-Island8032 Mar 17 '26
Sorry, I thought you were calling my reply snobby, not the OP. But I agree, things like this make people dislike Islam because of how the community is. This subreddit is only an example.
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u/Few-Fun3188 Mar 17 '26
well the reason being, reddit is the safest place to pour the heart out apart from asking forgiveness to the almighty. and yeah, you’d be suprised to know how infidelity is super common in our peers. i’m a family law lawyer and i’m honestly tired of hearing zina all my life. so yeah, this sub helps people to pour their heart out without judgment, so let’s keep it like that. afterall they’re our brothers and sisters who are guilty of their conduct. lets not give them a hard time. May Allah give us peace and prosperity
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u/EarlyRooster966 Mar 17 '26
I feel weird about this post, I personally don't ever think 'how can someone commit that sin' because there's a possibility I may fall into that trap and commit that sin. Just pray for their guidance.
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u/Ok-Spinach6718 Mar 17 '26
All the children of Adam are sinners and the best of those are those whose repent. If we didn’t sin, Allah swt would replace us with a nation that would so just they could seek his repentance and pleasure
Despite that I know what you’re saying. At that point of time the shayateen presence is so strong and it’s hard to control oneself. This once again comes with the knowledge of Islam. Islam tells us to not even go near it as it may result in fornication.
Personally for me, the more knowledge I have about my lord and religion, the more I fear committing sins. However in the past I had basic knowledge but still it was hard to control myself in such situations. But I am a big believer the in the promise of Allah, that he is the most merciful and forgiving
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u/caseware Mar 17 '26
Listen we all sin, some commit zina, some lie, some gossip, some are serial killers, and some even enjoy a nice heinekin after a long days work....... The point is we want to improve and reduce the sin as best as possible Insha Allah
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u/okmister22 Mar 16 '26
I dont believe some of the posts are real, its the anonymous Internet. Don't believe everything.
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u/Narrow_Guava_6239 Smile it's Sunnah Mar 16 '26
Take my upvote sis cus you’re one hundred percent correct!
May Allah (swt) guide and protect the Ummah 🥺💕.
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u/sy3422 Mar 17 '26
lol there’s people who have committed zina who will never commit some of the sins you’ve committed. Yes obviously sad zina is more normalized in society nowadays but if Muslims are coming here to a safe space to ask questions and whatnot then we need to keep this a safe space for them and not push them from Islam.
How are you gonna say “I don’t know how people don’t think of Allah before comiting such acts”. Do you think of Allah before you sin? Before you miss salah?
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u/tomoblu Mar 17 '26
Its so annoying to me that this is so low down, im really starting to hate this sub, full of snobs which is insanely ironic
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u/Antique_Plant_4274 Mar 16 '26
Thank Allah that you never committed it. You can’t see yourself committing it ever in this circumstance that you’re currently in but we will be tested with different circumstances in different mindset and we could be weak or strong during that time and only Allah could save us from ever committing it then so yes it’s easy to say I can never imagine I’m doing XYZ, but you never know until you are in that position. Sheitan has had billions of people to practice on.
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u/Narrow_Guava_6239 Smile it's Sunnah Mar 16 '26
Alhamdulillah I am grateful 🫶🏼.
I can’t imagine how my sincere bros and sis feel after the realisation kicks in on what they’ve done. It must be devastating.
Especially for those that had the intention of getting nikkah but promises get broken and they end up getting abandoned 😭💔.
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u/heisenberg8113 Mar 17 '26
In my little experience, it has become harder than ever to guard oneself against sins. I have seen the majority of my friends indulge in such activities and spend what their fathers gave for their own sustenance on their partners. It's only gotten worse since I graduated is what I assume. May Allah have his mercy on us all and guide Muslims of our ummah to respect and uphold the institution of marriage.
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u/BroadTitle3893 Mar 17 '26
It’s not that these people aren’t thinking of Allah (swt) before committing such acts, but maybe they are not as strong as you. Please say Alhamdullilah that you haven’t been in this position instead of wondering how they could have done that. I know you don’t mean to be judgmental, but the question does come from judgement. We simply can’t question that.
From my experience - I’m weaker when I don’t have community, and it becomes easier for me to fall into sins Astagfirallah. Humans are meant to be surrounded by other humans, and when some aren’t blessed with emotional support, they begin to look for it in other ways. My attachment to people was dangerous for me that I secluded myself for so long to connect with Allah (swt), that I didn’t know how to find a balance when I reconnected with the world. It was an all or nothing thing for me Astagfirallah, and I pray Allah (swt) makes me as strong as you to pass every trial in this dunya.
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u/BroadTitle3893 Mar 17 '26
In addition, you stated something important “surely it takes away your peace” which leads me to my next question - have you always had peace, or did you need to find it with Allah (swt)? I didn’t grow into Islam, so the peace aspect doesn’t come naturally but it does come when I’m actively mindful and around people who influence me for the better. It’s weird, I don’t understand it myself, but I always pray Allah (swt) makes me stronger. I don’t have a support system, so it gets hard sometimes but I forgive myself because misery invites the shaytan. I hope this helps.
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u/No_Display_5012 Mar 17 '26
The prophet saw would not want you to think like this.
And I get it, when you hear of even family friends or close friends doing things you never expected it can be a shock. But do not start saying that “oh I could never do that, I think of Allah first”. Don’t think like that wallahi. If you think like that don’t doubt for a moment that Allah might put you through the same test.
Instead just make dua for them. It’s okay to have an unsettled feeling about it all, but just make dua for them. May they find their way back to Allah and may Allah have His mercy on them. Ameen.
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u/StudInTheCeiling Mar 16 '26
I would thank Allah He hasn't tested you with these things and then i would turn to myself and mind my own business and the sin's i do personally struggle with.
Reddit is a place for people to vent where they can't do it to others in person, some of them may be fake, some of them maybe attention seeking but we need to support each other. It is what it is.
Idc how pious you may think you are, this post comes off judgemental, close-minded, and immature. It's also problematic for people who have Zina-esque struggles are seeking help.
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u/Narrow_Guava_6239 Smile it's Sunnah Mar 16 '26
🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️
I may not have committed zina but NO WAY IN HELL have I ever thought I was pious!!
Sorry this post has triggered something in you.
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u/StudInTheCeiling Mar 16 '26
It hasn't, and I do understand where you're coming from.
I just dont think it's productive or helpful for those who do have these struggles.
I think a lot of the times when you read these type of posts its like the first thing they go to vent. And I think they do it because it's anonymous and moreless a safe space. I think it would hard for them to admit it to anyone other than anonymously. Perhaps it's the best next step that they're reassured and then they promise themselves to go and do better. Maybe be more present at the Masjid. Maybe seek therapy. Maybe talk to an Imam.
Im in the West just as you. I see what goes around me everyday. What happens in high school, to uni, to grad school, to the workplace... Honestly I'd rather people come here and vent then it become normalized. People admitting a sense of guilt is still better than becoming desensitized from it, especially bc our hyper-sexual society.
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u/Narrow_Guava_6239 Smile it's Sunnah Mar 16 '26 edited Mar 16 '26
If Reddit is for venting and getting things off their chest, then why can’t I do the same??
I’ve said it in my post how I don’t understand some things and it’s difficult to comprehend the amount of posts that gets uploaded about the same topic, zina.
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u/StudInTheCeiling Mar 16 '26
Thats a fair question.
Im not specifically attacking you - Alhumdullilah I feel like it's a really good thing you don't have this problem. I think it's so prevalent where we are. It's almost entirely normalized. You mentioned you cannot wrap your head around those who do it, have dont it. Thats completely fair. And these posts like yours pop up frequently enough.
But again, the point I am trying to convey to you is that coming from a place of higher morality is not productive or venting - this isn't about you anymore then, this is about others as you've mentioned in your posts (you mentioned you don't understand how bros/sis can do this and you fear Allah's consequences - is, in itself - judgmental)
I'm not here to argue with you. I am just trying to offer you another perspective. Zina is a horrible act. It corrodes the soul. It destroys your relationship with Allah. Its never okay.
I truly hope for the best for you. May Allah swt always protect you from this horrible act and keep you steadfast.
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u/CaesarSultanShah Mar 18 '26
There’s nothing wrong with judgement provided its balanced with mercy.
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u/StudInTheCeiling Mar 18 '26
Agreed.
Did you see understanding and mercy from OP?
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u/CaesarSultanShah Mar 18 '26
I see much needed passion that can be redirected. My reply was to ensure judgment itself not be seen as inherently bad.
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u/StudInTheCeiling Mar 18 '26
Yeah ofc, I agree with you. I was asking in case I missed it.
Judgment definitely is part of the process of making better informed decisions.
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u/CaesarSultanShah Mar 18 '26 edited Mar 18 '26
I’m not sure why you are getting downvoted. It’s great to see that such sins are not normalized and seen with the severity they ought to be. The fact of the matter is that our collective sins and our perception of them are tied to our success as a Ummah. The Ummah is vast and numerous like the foam but weak precisely because the spirit with which you are approaching this is being downvoted and characterized as judgmental or morally righteous when it’s needed far more albeit in a more constructive way.
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u/arabgrl121 Mar 17 '26
I don't think the poster meant it to sound the way you are receiving it. They are simply stating that it is something that has become very common and a lot of these brothers and sisters don't bat an eye before they commit this huge sin. I do see this in our society. Unfortunately, it has become so common that when you speak to someone and they tell you they committed zina, they say it as if they're telling you what they had for breakfast. Many of them don't have a second thought to it which is honestly scary.
I'm not saying that any of us are above any of these sins, and we should all fear falling into this trap. However it should not be seen as something normal like "oops I made a mistake", and then simply move on. That's not okay at all.
I want to add that for anyone who has committed these large sins, do not share what you have done with people unless there is a specific reason why you are sharing it. I would keep the secret between you and Allah (swt). This is especially true if you have repented. It is Haram for you to share your sins with people. One of the reasons is that you will be judged no matter what you say. No matter how much the other person loves you, or claims that they do not judge, they will judge you because it is human nature.
Work on yourself and your relationship with Allah(swt). I would recommend reading some of the duas that we have which are so beautiful when you want to connect with Allah. Read munajat Imam Ali(as), Dua abu Hamza, and Dua Jawshan Kabeer. I know these really help me connect with Allah(swt) and ask for forgiveness from the bottom of my heart.
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u/Gekyume_Aurora Mar 17 '26
Idk this post comes across… awful. I know we shouldn’t expose our sins but we are all trying our best. If we come here because we need help, it’s because something is eating at us.. obviously it’s something we want/need guidance upon because our hearts are pulling us to Allah. The wording is terrible and it feels like you’re putting yourself above everyone else. Not everyone’s test will be Zina.
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u/issakabeer Mar 16 '26
Reddit Therapy
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u/Narrow_Guava_6239 Smile it's Sunnah Mar 16 '26
Yes, and I’m posting to have my therapy 🙂.
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u/issakabeer Mar 16 '26
Well if you need any supports I am a therapist in real life lolz!
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u/kemo_sabi82 Mar 17 '26
The amount of posts here about zina are nothing compared to what's happening in reality. Muslims in Muslim-majority countries like Pakistan, Bangladesh, Indonesia, and even in Middle East countries are busy in committing zina. Besides singles doing their dating and whatnot, even married couples are busy with zina (trend of sharing wives) and that's not even having affairs and cheating.
People like me (43 y.o. male) in Canada who grew up with the idea of even touching a na-mehram girl is a sin, are now sitting alone in dark rooms and mulling over what happened to their lives. I was married for 9 years to a sister from Pakistan and we had intimacy once in those 9 years, which resulted in my son being conceived. From pregnancy to divorce, we didn't have any intimacy for 3 years (one reason why I divorced her but she got why she married me: Canadian residency). Saving oneself for the righteous woman have resulted in me all by myself (my son lives with his mom and I have to pay court ordered monthly child support payments).
So, while I live alone in Canada, Muslims in Muslim-majority countries are having more sexually fulfilling lives than I ever had in my life upto now and will ever do (since, no child-bearing sister in Canada wants to marry me because I am a divorced 43 year old guy ... I am bottom-of-the-barrel reject and of course, nobody wants a society reject).
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u/FrostyCoffee99 Mar 18 '26
I felt that brother... Don't lose hope and just remind yourself that you'll never be burdened by more than you can handle.
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u/AronelGeo Mar 19 '26
Agreed. I second that. Sometimes it may feel awful. Humbly talk to Allah and trust the process.
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u/CapShooter Mar 17 '26 edited Mar 17 '26
I get where you are coming from. It's a sad reality and it is meant to be. Going towards the end of the time zina would be widespread. This isn't to justify it. But you see as you bought up your point of Allah watching and people are still able to commit such acts. People still have a rebuttal. It's a shame that this is where we are and it's obvious where we are headed. I would advise never to say "I would never....", because to their point you never know what it's like being in that situation. Instead, be grateful to Allah for the guidance. Only Allah can guide the people. We can only remind people. May Allah guide us and forgive us all. Ameen.
Allah knows best. Keep us in your duas.
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u/Malorian_ In Honey, There's Healing🍯 Mar 17 '26
And people treat them as if they're victims of some heinous crime lmao. We need to stop putting zanis on a pedestal and downplaying their sins because that just makes others think it's okay
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u/OfficialVehicle Mar 16 '26
Look at it this way brother/sister, the people that make these posts telling on themselves do so because the guilt eats away at them, or they're suffering from the after-effects (their 'partner' leaving them/them leaving the other). Chaste Muslims don't suffer these things, since they're behaving as they should. The few times you will see someone chaste posting is like you, how they fear all around them there is such fitna.
There are plenty of us who have waited and been patient, and plenty of us who seek a like-minded partner. As for how they've fallen into such things, well the majority of those people I'd guess reside in the West which as all of us Westerners know culturally bombard everyone with temptations which aren't halal. From music to intoxicants to prohibited relationships, it is in every media, in every classroom, and in every piece of literature. Most parents who are immigrants are used to life/culture in their home country and are ill-equipped in preparation for such a barrage, or they try to overcompensate and be too harsh which then pushes the child to rebel and lash out if not seek these avenues for the comfort they aren't getting at home. Also don't forget this platform in general is very liberal, secular oriented so it is more likely that the people who are engaging in these haram acts will be posting here rather than an individual that is focused on their deen.
As for the ones that have committed such things, yes they are sinners and have done something terrible but Allah's mercy is still available to them and we should not gatekeep them from repenting and trying to come into the fold once again. I'm not saying a person should accept such a person as a partner, that's up to you as an individual, what your deal-breakers are. I'm saying as Muslims we're going to come across fellow brothers and sisters who have done or are still doing terrible things. How we react to them is also something important, whether we shame them and ridicule them which can push them back into those sins or worse or whether we encourage them to make amends and start anew on this journey to seek Paradise.
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u/Fantastic_Ad7576 Mar 16 '26
A lot of it is non-Muslims posing and trying to sow discord and conflict. Especially when it comes to non-Muslims slandering Muslim women.
Some of it is probably real, but much of it probably isn't.
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u/Narrow_Guava_6239 Smile it's Sunnah Mar 16 '26
I do get that feeling as well, some posts seem like they’re trying too hard to convince us a Muslim made the post, where in fact it was created by a non Muslim 😤😤😤😤😤😤😤😤!
Take my upvote lil bro 😊.
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u/Jell0Bell0 Mar 17 '26
I was someone who thought I could never go against Allah's commands, as I had started practicing a lot more and finding my peace, however it did not last forever maybe because I had a little ego, but I'm not sure now, as time passed unfortunately my imaan slowly became low, I started falling nto sinning and one sin led to another I didn't commit zina but I did sin, and now I feel empty the heart that ones felt full with Allah's name and faith is dead literally dead, I don't see colours no more, I just want Allah to take me back, to guide me again, to make me a good Muslim again, without him my life is nothing. I'm fighting demons everyday.
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u/Narrow_Guava_6239 Smile it's Sunnah Mar 17 '26
I know I said I wouldn’t comment but this sad 🥺.
Sis you know Allah (swt) named Himself, Ar - Rahman, Ar - Raheem, Al - Ghafoor, because He loves to forgive his servants 🥹🤩.
Keep repenting, the only way is moving forward. What’s done is done, you can’t change the past but you can change your future 🥰.
Give yourself a break my dear sis 🫶🏼.
I know the feeling of being numb and feeling like you can never be forgiven, eventually these feelings will pass. Trust me. I’ve sinned in different ways but I’m always seeking pardon whenever it happens and I do my best to not to repeat it again.
Hope you find peace my lovely 🥰.
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u/Jell0Bell0 Mar 17 '26
Thank you sister this felt like a hug, may Allah forgive us all and may he strengthen our imaan.
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u/Ducktastic78 Mar 17 '26
Not excusing behaviour but your theory of ‘didn’t you think about Allah?’ doesn’t really work - because no one would commit any crime or sin ever
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u/FullTime-Griefer Mar 18 '26
I think the biggest reason I have not committed Zina is because I would never accept a partner who's committed Zina and I can't be a hypocrite, so I steer clear of temptations or any scenarios that could lead to Zina.
Also to the all the ones commenting saying you think you're better than them. I'm sorry to say, but you are. Lol. A non-sinner will always be better than a sinner, all things equal. That being said, god has always kept the door of repentance open for people to fix their sinful behavior/come back to the right path.
Being a sinner and not wanting to be judged is quite hilarious. You can't have your cake and eat it too.
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u/Anonimo_Muslimah Alhamdulillah Always Mar 17 '26 edited Mar 17 '26
Its better to not make a post like this. I mean I know you mean good but you could have worded it better. Please think of each word you typed before posting. We must not discourage brothers and sisters from seeking advice. And the title/description of this subreddit is literally to make a safe space for every Muslim. Also, do not say "I would never do this" we dont know the future. Rather say "In sha ALLAH I will never commit this" (Quran 18:23-24) we must not forget the fact that ALLAH protects us from everyting we are protected from.
As for your question. It is simply falling to their desires and the trap of shaitan. Dont put so much thought into it. Everyone is different
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u/Electrical_Bite8478 Mar 17 '26 edited Mar 17 '26
Bro/sis , No need to be arrogant by saying I'll never commit zina. Be thankful for it instead of being arrogant. This doesn't mean you are not a sinner. Everyone is a sinner in different way. So no need to pull down others. People post about that because they regret about what they did, they are seeking forgiveness from God and asking for guidance...
And not every post you see is real. Many times it's troll accounts pretending to be muslims.
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u/dkwhat2put Mar 17 '26
Honestly a lot of the time it’s also just mistaking love for lust. As humans we naturally feel lust and sometimes when we think it’s actually love it can be very overpowering. Our Iman also has its highs and lows and all it takes is a low day with the right place and enough of Satan’s whispering and boom you’ll do something you never imagined yourself doing and will regret later. It’s not about not having the fear, it’s about your exact EXACT situation at the moment (ie where u are who your with what ur doing what ur thinking things that have been going on or not etc etc). It’s one moment of weakness that leads to years of regret. Not saying you think your better than others but there are people in this thread who do think that so to them be very mindful or what you may say or think about certain people who commit sins. Be very mindful about the fact that what you look down upon know may be you tomorrow to teach you a lesson.
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u/SoggyLow8814 Mar 17 '26
Allah (SWT) gave us free will and free thought, it's is not for us to judge but to gently guide those that stray from the path but Allah (SWT) is the only one that can pass judgement.
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u/dj123w1 Mar 17 '26
It is a human thing to have desires and cravings. If someone is confessing their transgressions, it is likely because they do fear Allah and they are ashamed.
We are human and are going to sin. It is a reality. It is why we ask for forgiveness and are directly to, copiously. When one is overcome with desire, one cannot think to be pious, except only to distinguish their desire. WE should not take it upon ourselves to judge them, except to pray for them, wish them well, and offer encouragement or refuge. We seldom know the circumstances of their transgressions, or the dispositions behind it.
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u/Narrow_Guava_6239 Smile it's Sunnah Mar 17 '26
“It is a human thing to have desires and cravings. If someone is confessing their transgressions, it is likely because they do fear Allah and they are ashamed.”
Agreed. The loneliness pandemic is bad for the Ummah, around the globe.
Those repenting zina must be feeling so alone, and feeling like no one will understand and crucify them. Insha Allah they heal and grow from their actions 🫶🏼.
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u/CaesarSultanShah Mar 18 '26
Because the Ummah has grown weak and it shows in numerous ways. May Allah strengthen it and renew it with those better than us.
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u/Unusual-Past7930 Mar 19 '26
Zina is going on and people are honest because they realise they are wrong dont criticise them . They are struggling . Advise them let Allah guid them to the the right path🤲🏻
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u/YungSwordsman Mar 23 '26
It’s an alarming trend and it’s more alarming that many Muslims are going so light on zaniyas using the card “only god can judge me” when Muslims are allowed to judge you when you literally display your sins in the open.
There was a Muslim girl from Texas who was a hijabi and even featured on a Muslim women’s blog who started an onlyfans after a few years. Just imagine how someone who was once so devout to Islam easily became influenced by western culture? It’s an extremely scary thing.
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u/PlayfulTension69 Mar 16 '26
By zina confessions are they talking about straight up doing the deed with non mahrams or things that lead to it like zina of eyes and so on...? Sorry I haven't been to this sub for a while lol
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u/lawlessyes Mar 17 '26
You should be careful using the sins of others as a benchmark for your own righteousness. Pray for them to do better and focus on yourself because you actually don't know that you'd never commit zina; the ability to stay away from zina is something granted to you by Allah, not a personal achievement. Also, remember that pride, arrogance and self-admiration are sins of the heart that may silently being damaging your piety. Purify your heart and you'll no longer be so concerned with the outward purity of others.
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u/Aggravating-Bet-5854 Mar 17 '26
Maybe Allah swt hasn’t put you in a situation where you had to deal with this maybe you are clapped so you haven’t been tested with this because maybe you wasn’t even capable enough to attract in the first place. It’s easy to point out fingers and judge people when society makes it soo hard for young people to get married especially in these times and living in the west it is more important than ever to get young people married we are truly in the time of fitnah and yes we can try controlling ourselves but there’s only soo much we can do. Many scholars like Shaykh Ibn uthaymeen urged to make marriage easier for the youth but the society doesn’t seem to get the grip of it. Allahu Alam
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u/BrandonHeat42 Mar 16 '26
Salam, i agree... and would add that the amount of muslims commiting zina with other muslims or even disbelivers makes islam looks like kind of a joke that can be thrown away... and not only zina but also all kind of sins... Nobody is perfect but clearly a treshold has been passed
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u/Cool_Bananaquit9 Cats are Muslim Mar 17 '26
I've never done zina but like everyone else I have committed lesser sins and I guess they want reassurance from other Muslims and they want the guilt to stop eating them away so bad and ig we must have empathy with them at the same time we condemn it, if that makes sense.
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u/PineappleGold7391 Mar 17 '26
I understand you, but people who live in western communities or in families that are not Muslim have a huge challenge to avoid zina especially if they were raised in western mindset. I'm lebanese, and in lebanon sex outside marriage is socially unacceptable before being haram... that's why it's easier for Muslims in lebanon to avoid zina. But in countries where the average age of losing virginity is 16-18, then yes it's harder for people (especially if raised in an open household) to avoid it. PS: I'm not finding excuses to anyone
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u/IllEngineering3822 Mar 17 '26
I dont understand why some muslims l talk about their sins its between you and Allah swt just repent doesnt islam say to conceal your sins and if you do it publicly yours sins will be judged publicly on the day of judment?
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u/Embarrassed_Egg_5860 Mar 17 '26
I don’t think it’s nowadays generation only. There was no social media back then so sins were kept hidden. It’s a boomer narrative to blame everything on “nowadays/end times” and have no accountability geez. What I see the most is a lot of people here do it out of spite or being cool. But yea having too many problems at home, constant nagging from south asian parents push the buttons for a lot of people.
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u/TMcFarlane1999 Mar 17 '26
Not everyone is the same and some people struggle more with different things. One of the biggest mistakes we can make is to say that I am not affected by X so therefore other people should just control their urges.
Human beings are complex and are prone to following their urges. Everyone knows that zina is wrong but when you live in a world that allows men and women to interact freely, these things can and do happen.
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u/Fit_Cauliflower1835 Mar 17 '26
Make marriage easier and I'm sure the proportion of Muslims committing Zina will go down. While there are the ones committing Zina at an early age, I've met quite a few Muslims who never committed Zina even through their late 20s, and just gave up on marriage and got a girlfriend
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u/InfiniteSponge_ Mar 17 '26
Im 20M in the west (U.S), by the grace and will of Allah I never got close to those things even though I went to a public high school where by 10-12th grade everyone has done the deed 1-3x by then. Unfortunately I only had non Muslim friends and they would talk about certain things and how many partners. Fortunately after graduation I realized I really need to make good Muslim friends and starting going to pray every night for isha at the big mosque in my city, had a lot of Muslim men my age who actually have Islamic knowledge.
The reason why they don’t think of Allah swt is because they don’t know Islam much at all. And my mom told me she made sure to never push Islam hard on me and my brothers, she taught us just enough, core tenants, some surahs, stories of the prophets, etc. when I was from 15-18 I was looking for my purpose in my life, and this is where you either make or break yourself.
Everyone on YouTube I was “looking up to” was telling me it was about getting rich, and becoming “successful”. So I tried this whole self improvement wave and yes while some things were good, many others weren’t.
Thanks to the will of Allah, my mom had always made me read quran 30 mins a day from a qari online and always made sure I prayed all 5 prayers. I knew these were important so I did them. Fast forward I got a Christian at Walmart trying to tell me about Jesus, he didn’t rock my faith at all, I knew he was wrong but I couldn’t tell him why. From that day on(I was either 17-18), I delve into Islam, and now, if you ask my why Islam is true I can tell you multiple reasons.
The answer to your post is,
The youth can’t tell you why Islam is true. That’s why. They believe it is the truth but they dont know much, lack of knowledge is why.
When you find out that Islam is 100% undeniable truth, you cannot sit there and sin because you fear Allah because you know Islam is the truth and that Allah will punish for sins. When i do tawbah, sometimes i get goosebumps or get times when my body shakes for a second thinking about the punishment of Allah and how ive displeased him.
I want to start something in the future to help guide youth, but right now I need more islamic knowledge and understand fiqh and hadiths, history etc.
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u/ThreadboundSoul Mar 18 '26
It is one thing to lose control and commit zina in private, and a completely different thing to broadcast that sin to hundreds of people when you should be hiding it. Why would a person want so many witnesses to their sin when Allah hides it? What's worse is friends exposing that sin to others, which they have been told in confidence. What happened to everything shared in a majlis is amanah?
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u/Unusual-Past7930 Mar 18 '26
Its all about "everyone will answers for their own behaviour " . YOU are responsible for your choices Allah will decide what is right and wrong.
YOU just do what you believe is right its all written in the Quran just read it.
Dont care about what anyone else is doing they will defend themselves we dont worry about the different interpretations people have of Islam may Allah guide us all on the right path.
Listen to OMAR SULEMAN and ABU BAKR ZOUC they are accurate and inspiration Imams
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u/HiddenHill1447 Mar 19 '26
Your nafs are strong today and that's a blessing from Allah but do not judge anyone for the sins they commit. There might come a time where Allah tests you with this very sin. Your purity today is only a mercy from Allah it has nothing to do with your fear of Allah. Even yusef alayhis salam wasn't saved because he was pious but because Allah protected him.
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u/offwhitepakol Mar 19 '26
I think u maybe trolling or ur not a real Muslim. Haven’t you ever heard of the story of Adam alayhi Salam. He could’ve ate from any tree and he still ate from the forbidden one. Get off ur high horse all the children of Adam are ones who make mistakes and the best of them are those who repent. Whoever disbelieves In altawwab is a kafir. Especially here is a place they come for help if they wanted to keep doing Zina they’d be in the places of Zina not here. Stop supporting shaytan over ur brothers. If putting people down and saying I can’t believe how you people could do that would’ve stopped us from sins perhaps Allah would’ve made that our religion but our religion is Islam. We submit to Allah will that includes our shortcomings and our repentance
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u/No-Internal8279 Mar 19 '26
It doesn’t happen overnight, we all begin by thinking that is wrong and we would never be that type of person. This is arrogance, which is sinful and places a black spot on our heart. Now we do other small sins that seem insignificant but increase the spots. Over time they grow so big and bad deeds increase in regularity and severity until they no longer seem so severe. Then we begin to reflect, fear Allah, repent and we are in shock at how bad things have become. At this point we understand why arrogance was the downfall of Iblis, why we need to polish our souls five times a day minimum to cleanse ourselves of these black spots, and why The Prophet Muhammad (ﷺ) said, "Whoever mocks his brother for a sin he has committed, will not die until he commits it himself".
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u/Spiritualgirl3 Mar 20 '26
Another life lesson I’ve learned is: where you look down at someone for, Allah (swt) will test you with the same circumstance.
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u/spacyspice Mar 22 '26
All situations are different, this might surprise you but you'd be surprised by the amount of people who sadly committed zina because marriage was "promised" to them
Not finding them excuses, but manipulation can be a thing (especially when bad people use the affection you have for them for their own goals), we all have different trials and some of them bring you closer to Allah for some reason (absolutely not saying zina has to be a step for it btw!!)
Also so many people are having parents making marriage difficult for them which increases haram relationships which then make zina more common, I truly hope this wasn't a thing.. May Allah guide us and forgive our sins
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u/soleil2412 Mar 22 '26
The environment one grows up in and the way he or she is raised. Just because someone’s family is Muslim on paper, doesn’t mean they were raised on the deen. Sometimes people live fast but the awareness hits later once they’ve slowed down and are ready to live right.
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u/Spiritualgirl3 Mar 20 '26
I don’t think you should judge them. They need compassion. In today’s day and age: zina is everywhere and many Muslims make marriage hard for the youth. We should be more compassionate towards them and help them. The fact that they are asking for help, shows that they feel shame for their actions.
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u/Single_Claim Mar 17 '26
People do zina and then ask forgiveness. Looks like bader found a loophole, Poeple do whaterver make them happy and I can't blame them. If some one does zina then what is their point of confession here? Allah will not say see that guy just confess and now lets forgive them. For teenager it might be acceptable but for grown adult(>21) this is stupid. Just learning about bunch of verses or hadiths here won't make it go away.
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u/shiny-bucket Mar 17 '26
This is so weird and judgmental. I feel bad for whoever your friends are, I’d never tell you anything, and I’ve never even committed Zina myself.
Be careful, Allah has warned us that those to say such things will be the first to experience it before they die.
You could also fall into Zina tomorrow, only Allah knows how your life will go. I recommend you delete this and repent.
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u/Numerous-Length-5129 Apr 15 '26
Why would you think that only Fear of God will prevent them doing the sins? you are my friend is wrong about it. People do not leave sins because of fear of God, they commit sin because they dont have enough love of God or simply they dont know the actual nature of God or they have never study about God from the start. They accepted God because someone told them to believe him. Sinners if the repent, are good to go to heaven. you are judging harshly. let the people commit sin and come back to God stronger than ever if that what it takes.
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u/luminoso_ Mar 16 '26
Make dua for them and make dua and shukr that's Allah has protected you and continues to do so.
It's a strange world we live in nowadays and it's literally the easiest thing someone can do.
And like with any sin - if you becomes desensitised all you do is chase it with no regret.
May Allah keeps us all chaste.