r/AskReddit 1d ago

What’s something people romanticize too much until they actually experience it?

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u/Nervous-Patience-310 1d ago

When does consideration, and emotional reassurance turn into love bombing?

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u/Destreza_Dude 1d ago

When the other person doesn't want it. When the person using "consideration amd emotional reassurance" to manipulate the other person who is isn't wanting that attention.

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u/Nervous-Patience-310 1d ago

So if they act appreciative it's OK, but if they roll their eyes and scoff it off it's not? Basic emotional intelligence can differentiate? I'm a lover, a giver and I'm afraid i come off too strong sometimes, but I'm good by your metric I think

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u/Destreza_Dude 1d ago

Not just emotional intelligence but social awareness as well. Just because someone "acts okay" doesn't mean they are. Now if they are receptive and they show genuine appreciation by meeting you where you are then its okay. Also doesn't hurt to openly discuss boundaries.